I’ve a friend who has a sister who is 5 years younger than her.Among her family members and relatives,it was said that,her younger sister would get married to one of their cousins.Her sister knew it from younger age itself that she would marry him,and she likes him also,but,now,the boy’s family thinks that,since the elder daughter hasn’t got any rishta as yet,so,they should take her as their daughter-in-law instead of her younger sister.
Do you people think is it right?Should this be done?
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Well, that's something only THEY can answer.
IT's difficult for us to see their point of view because we grew up with Disney movies that told us marriage is about love and that prince will find you and you will fall in love with him and blah blah....
FOR A LOT OF PEOPLE in this world, marriage is more of a practical matter. It's something you do. YOu marry, love the person you marry, have kids, raise them, marry them off, and then die.
So in the above scenario, if EVERYONE is okay with it, well then it's just their way of doing things. But only they can answer that.
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^ depends on the both of the sisters. 1st thing to consider is how attached is the younger sister to the cousin. if she doesn't have any feelings for him thn it should be a problem. n if she does thn its better to keep the org. rishta (younger sister with the cousin)
2nd thing to consider is how does the older sister feel abt the cousin?
if she doesnt mind marrying him thn thats good.
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lerka kia kehta hai? if he is ok with this new development then al is set and your friend's sister can move on and find someone else. if boy is not ok then she's got nothing to worry about.
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^ no u have to consider the girls feelings too...
all is not set just because the guys said he is fine with the older sister.
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According to the boy,he will go according to his family's wish,ie,whoever his family chooses for him.
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well, i don't about the girl's feelings. She should be happy for her sister- if both the guy and the sister are okay with it.
^ no u have to consider the girls feelings too... all is not set just because the guys said he is fine with the older sister.
yeah...but she likes him...do we know she loves him too? liking n loving are 2 different feelings. if she loves him then she'll fight for him. but what if feelings are not mutual and guy says he is ok with elder sister...then?
no matter what the situation is...its better to be rational than emotional.
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How does the younger sister feel? Also have the younger sister & the guy developed any sort of understanding, as they always knew they would get married? If so, then I do not think it is a good idea. I mean what kind of guy is that.....ye nehi tho vo sehi....
okay this is hard.
but they should def consider both sisters' feelings and the gal's family's wishes before they take any steps. if the younger sis knew since the beginning that she'll marry the cousin chances are she's got feelings for him which should def be considered. normally if a relationship is broken it's a lil easier to move on because u don't c tat person anymore. in this case if older sis marries the cousin then younger sis will have to see him quite often as her bro in law. Gal's family should sit together as a family and talk bout things openly esp both sis's take on this one.
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Of course, it's not right! This is disturbing. This is why parents should zip their mouths when childrens are growing up because* no one knows what the future holds*! Ugh!
The guy should marry the younger sister, no ifs, ands or buts.
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What are the parents going to do if the younger sister doesnt get any rishtas later on? I think the guy should marry whoever he has been engaged to.