…to treat two wives equally?
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yes
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No
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Please call 1800-ask-a-sheikh ![]()
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Its actually impossible to treat one wife equally, let alone two.
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no, it is not possible
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Yes
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if you go by the theory that “everybody is different” , then you cannot treat two people equally. habits, manners, perceptions will dictate how people treat you and how you treat them.
if you have two children that are behaving badly, one is quiet and submissive, the other loud and rude. you will not give them the same punishment will you? no, because even though they are both your children, their personalities are different and you have to treat them differently to get your desired result.
same concept with a wife. one wife will always be loved more, or cared for more, or laughed with more, or fought with more, or whatever.
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actually, a more correction question is: For WHOM is it possible to treat 2 wives JUSTLY.
The operative words are: WHOM and JUSTLY.
Not everyone has the resources, or the heart, or the wisdom to be just.
its impossible for any human being to treat ANYONE: two things, or people EQUALLY. You own palms don’t have EQUAL size fingers. EQUALITY creates distortion. Polygamy in Islam is ONLY allowed if love, and justice (in terms of property rights, authority, access rights) can be managed. So the man must first have a good understanding of what “JUSTICE” is, and that understanding must be in AGREEMENT with other wives and in line with Quranic laws.
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yes.
Don’t you treat your children equally?
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Exactly, dont we all have a more favorite parent? like DAD is favorite, or Mom is favorite for some. EQUALITY is not a criteria. justice is
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Only if both wives have the same clauses in their pre-nups ![]()
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Couldn’t resist?
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You wanting two, OP?
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You all but wrote that up yourself ![]()
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Nah, I went to my parents house and they were watching some paki drama where the dude has two wives, so I thought: gupshup time!
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Yes, in theory and religion code (it should be).
Personal opinion will vary. for myself this question would not be relevant.
Why would you need a second one for? It would be like cheating (in my opinion)
Gonna get married only once, if something happens, not gonna remarry, I am mentally prepared to be a single father . .
dear op, you should listen to “One love - Blue”
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Variety is the spice of life.
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If your parent’s are watching desi dramas then you are more brown than you try to act!
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They watch them not me! I might stare at the tv whilst I’m visiting them, but that’s about it. My dad watches Korean movies with subtitles lol, he watches anything pretty much.
I don’t see how acting the way I do as you put it whilst still being desi isn’t possible?