Re: Is it possible to live with another woman?
NA-UH. Nuff said.
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May be I'm stereotyping since I haven't met any arab women whose husbands have married again but the answer to your question would be, they aren't really given a choice. They have to deal with it.
Yeah, this is a generalization. Arab women (those who grew up there) are often O.K. with being co-wives. It's a norm that they don't necessarily resentfully accept.
Does it make them better? No. They are just conditioned to it. Just as men in polyandrous societies (few as they are) are conditioned to be O.K. with being co-husbands.
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Btw why would women not allow their husband to marry second time. Is it because of sex?. I mean for those men who can afford to keep two wives. What is wrong with that?
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Religiously there is nothing wrong with it but most women know how they are.
They know they dont have the "sharing" gene...I am the same way.
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How do you know they are not really given choice and they have to deal with it when you never met them? ;)
How does NomiCA know arab men marry more than once when he's never been to arab land? ;)
More importantly, how do *you *know tampons can get lost up there? =/
It's called common knowledge.
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What nomi an I said have some physical proves like something hapening and been observed by someone.
What you said was of someone’s opinion on someone’s feelings. The feelings can be refuted by other evidences. But physical evidences cannot. 
Boy you asked a tough question, but :shoaby:
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Sometimes its their common dislike for their husband that unites both wives. They can relate to each others sense of oppression, unhappiness and the coldness they receive by the man they're both married to. Its like he's not good with you, he's not good with me either so its not worth fighting over him so lets just develop a companionship with each other for survival. Similar to Marriam and Laila's story in Thousand Splendid Suns, a theme which is also pretty common in Middle Eastern novels.
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I couldn't do it, and God forbid such a time be imposed on me. I'd leave him, or die of jealousy.
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QFT.
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Sister wives...
Its all about culture and how you are socialized. Nothing inborn, genetic to it.
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I mean if they were so oppressed/forced to deal with…wouldn’t they make sure that their sons/daughters don’t do it?..just discussing u now :sid:
you mean that women are genetically programmed not to accept another woman?
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Aray aajkul bohut see khawateen ko inlaws k saath rehnay mayn problem hoti hai aap altogther another woman ki baat ker rahi ho. :)
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Arab women have a lot less to give up than desi women, they are practically never asked to move into the husband's house sharing a kitchen, bathroom etc with the rest of the family.. Not surprising most desi women would kick up a fuss if they were expected to live with inlaws, cook and clean for them then on top of that be expected to handle their husband disappearing for at least half the week leaving them behind to look after his parents whilst he sleeps with another woman.. Could a person get any more selfish than that lol..
Of course culturally they are more used to it but when a wife is happy with her situation and is given her other rights in the first place obviously she is likely to be more flexible and open-minded when it comes to things like polygyny (she's more likely to feel that she'll be treated fairly imo)..
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Arab women have a lot less to give up than desi women, they are practically never asked to move into the husband's house sharing a kitchen, bathroom etc with the rest of the family, not surprising most desi women would kick up a fuss if they were expected to live with inlaws, cook and clean for them then on top of that be expected to handle their husband disappearing for at least half the week leaving them behind to look after his parents whilst he sleeps with another woman.. Could a person get any more selfish than that lol..
Lets exclude the in-laws.......the woman lives with her husband only........(there are a LOT of cases of that too)...
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This whole thing about multiple wives...obviously no woman wants to share her husband and we all know that bit.
BUT lets say you were thrown into it by chance...........is it possible to co-exist with a co-wife?
Has anyone ever seen such a situation?
Yes it is possible...if husband and the wives are sensible enough then it is possible.
No i havenot seen any such situation yet.
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Lets exclude the in-laws.......the woman lives with her husband only........(there are a LOT of cases of that too)...
Well then I would say it depends a lot on how the husband treats her (emotionally and in terms of material things) as well of course how much she loves him, how dependent she might be on him or what she might lose out on..
Personally I would divorce and walk away.. I can't take away his God given right to it but I can choose not to be part of that arrangement.. Apart from the jealousy issue I don't want a 'part-time' husband..
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^But what about Arabs then??
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^Maybe they love their husbands more and/or would put up with more.. A lot of women would turn a blind eye if they were kept in a mansion and given shedloads of money.. esp if they were likely to lose out on all that in the event of divorce..
Isn't is usually the rich arabs or the very poor (who prob have little choice but to accept it) who practise polygyny rather than the average middle-class guys who'd obviously struggle to pay for two (or three or four) houses, sets of bills etc.. In the case of the poor clearly they don't have as many expenses/side issues to deal with..
There are so many factors to it tbh.. Our culture and theirs is so different but I do think it has a lot to do with how the wives are treated, what the expectations of each spouse are (and also possibly divorce and the amount of stigma attached to it - which is less for arabs - so it's easier for them to walk out and/or remarry if they want to, I doubt their women would feel as 'trapped' by the situation as ours)..
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^so basically you saying they are basically greedy (the rich ones) or are oppressed (the poor ones).........but they are actually not OK with it??
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^Some of those women are obviously ok with it and are happy to share (we know of an arab woman who actually helped her husband look for another wife - a good way to go about it lol) but I would think the majority have no real choice or are just staying around cos they're leading much more comfortable lives being in the marriage than they would if they were single and yes it often comes down to money imo..
The ones who are genuinely happy with their husbands having multiple wives are the ones who had good marriages in the first place where the first wife has no resentment (ie they aren't arguing all the time, the marriage is 'dead' or broken down or husband is bored/fed up with wife no.1 and fancies a much younger sexier model)..