Is it possible that your close relative or spouse goes beyond boundries and you do not notice the vibes ?
Case 1 :
I am totally clueless as how can this happen among desi comunities where husband and wife are living together. I can understand the situation where they are living in different continents /countries ( which again will be very rare case according to my understanding. )
Please share details of any case of this nature you observed closely. thanks
The second one :
Case 2 :
That is more difficult scenario. If some close associate hints you about something fishy about under-development OR fully ripe none platonic relationship of your close relatvie then how would you cross examine the subject before reaching any conclusion.
Please state them in points. I will be grateful for this
I know it is quite difficult subject. I am just a student of this subject.
Re: Is it possible adultry remains un-noticed among desi associates ?
It sound more like a school assignment to me :D but yea for first one I think if you don't have interest in each other then its natural that you have to fulfill your desires somehow . People always find a way to cheat if they have to . For the second one , if your relative is doing it , then keep your nose out of it . Unless they are really close to you and you really care . If you are sincere to them , then just advise them wisely to refrain, otherwise let them be .
It sound more like a school assignment to me :D but yea for first one I think if you don't have interest in each other then its natural that you have to fulfill your desires somehow .** People always find a way to cheat if they have to .
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Okey they will. But do people around that person switch-off their raddars ?
Okey raddar does not tell you the exact size of oject / warhead capabilities but it certainly gives you subtle awareness of aproaching threat(s).
Okey some machines can dodge raddars , Like Airwolf. But not all ! so the question remains that in order to remain un-noticeed of a threat you have to switch off the raddars. Do all the close associates keep their raddar switched off ? I dont think so
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For the second one , if your relative is doing it , then keep your nose out of it . Unless they are really close to you and you really care . If you are sincere to them , then just advise them wisely to refrain, otherwise let them be .
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I am talking about close relatives only , not the long distanced ones. My nose is also not free at all to poke into business of my PDP ( puphi da puttar) or someone else. Now you are jumping to conclussion before any investigations. I am asking for steps which will take you to the top of ladder and then your will draw conclussion. thanks
Re: Is it possible adultry remains un-noticed among desi associates ?
^ I am trying to chip in but not anywhere close to good old days :)
I understand this is difficult topic and there might be very few individauls who may be able to shed some light. Like I said, I have no knowledge of any case which fall into boundries of this topic. I am aware of some cases where people had a some panorama about affairs of married people outside boundries.
Just a month or two ago I read in newspaper a very grave story of disparity, which was also beyond my comprehension. here it is :
It was reported that an incident in Shahdara which shocked and horrified an entire neighbourhood. A Man Killed a newly wed bride and groom , early morning after their wedding night. The man reached his home and shot n killled himself too. Now the background according to news report that the Killer and girl had an affair, and wanted to marry her. Now thats not all !!!
The groom was not a bachelor. He was infact brother in law of that bride and his wife died after bearing few kids. Now family forced the girl to marry the widowed guy to support him and his kids. The girl had to surrender due to family pressures ( Simmilar to the story of an indian movie "Hum apkey hain kon" )
Now obviously girl had an affair with that killer guy. But interestingly that killer was also married person. He wanted to marry the girl because his wife was issueless, and could not bore him child.
Now there might be several strings attached with this story which are not covered in news report.
