is it okay to tell

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Re: is it okay to tell

@Sehrysh

In theory you should be able to have a frank conversation with someone who is in a position of authority relative to you and explain to them that they make you nervous, but life isn’t that simple. Maybe you can say it without “blaiming” the other person so that it doesn’t become a confrontational conversation - express ways to make the relationship less nerve-wracking and see what you yourself can do to make it better.

makes sense

@redvelvet

Telling your boss (especially) that they make you nervous suggests a lack of composure and confidence…and that’s the the sort of image you want to give…it’s not exactly professional. Moreover, I’ve seen some jerk-like bosses out there…I’ve encountered one…who will take advantage of such a confessiona…as in it can give them an ego boost that might cause them to find ways to intimidate you, push you around, take unfair advantage of you/a situation.

Now with an advisor and a professor…there may be greater flexibility in telling them that they make you nervous…but as others have asked…why would you do so? If it’s because you have a crush on them…avoid it altogether…as that would create awkwardness. If it’s because a prof has a strict/reserved demeanor or way of grading…you cant really change that…the more mature thing to do would be seek help with the assignment if that’s what you’re worried about. If it’s an advisor…I don’t know why you’d want to seek advice from a person who makes you feel this way…if it’s a uni advisor…I doubt that you’d have to interact with them often enough for it to be such a problem. Be careful with how you word things, as Sehrysh as suggested above. There’s a way to say it in an accusatory way…and a way that’s more general.

completely agree…and yes it’s the demeanor…or the persona they exude

@Disney_Princess

Nope. That is revealing your weakness, and I tend not to reveal my weaknesses to anyone, unless that person is my mum, dad, siblings, or someone VERY VERY VERY close to me.

again, true…hm.