Is it ok to joke like this ....?

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Re: Is it ok to joke like this …?

@jaanaan

that is so typical desi jokes. i hate them whether they are against islam or not. and i hate the people who make them. idiots.

Yes, at times we might not know of what they are actually thinking because they mostly say it indirectly.

@Code_Red

No it is not ok to joke like that.

You should tell them in all seriousness that these type of remarks are cheap and not suitable for them to make specially for female colleagues.

But how you should tell them depends on you and your relationship level of frankness with your colleagues.

Some colleagues get jealous too. and they are very dangerous people. They appear sweet and friendly on the front but can stab you in the back whenever they get a chance. So be very careful

I agree, I have started avoiding his such comments, because he has been guiding me and our thesis topics are very much interdependent as our advisor is the same. I know by nature he is a very nice guy, (from 1 year of experience with him) but such comments are not appropraite specially when the girl is totally not aware of it.

@zobia

well brother STP, ur initial step was actually a wrong one. bayshak as a muslim u must be soft spoken but smiling at na-mehram guy/gal will be a PERMANENT MOSEBAT.

kher call them in ur office n “dant” them.

p.s. or made them read this thread

I try to avoid looking in her eyes and remain serious and to the point, but I can’t be rude to her because she is totally unaware of my beliefs and it would be very difficult to elaborate my intentions to her, because Turks are more than frank with opposite gender. She has limited her visits to my room because I think she has understood that I am newly married and I am not extending (actually cuting short) any discussion which she tries to start about profession or daily life.

@tariqlkhan

Is that lady (one who comes to your office) aware of that

She is totally unaware of that. She is very innocent and polite but like a typical Turkish modern girl she doesn’t dress well and at times doesnt care much about physical limitations. But with time she has understood it from my body language and is more carefull.

A few times I was working in the office till midnight and she suddenly appeared in my office and started talking frankly. I was very uncomfortable as we were the only two in the whole building which doesn’t seem appropriate so I wanted to leave as soon as possible but she was very normal and kept talking till her father came to take her. Her father was also very normal to see her in a bearded boy’s office and that too at midnight. Once I was going alone through the jungle at night and she came and said she also was going that way. From that day I don’t remain alone in the office at night.

p.s. There is no sign of bad intentions in her behavior, as I said she behaves like a typical Turkish girl, but the more I avoid the more she comes across. My be because she is the only girl in that portion of the department so she might need professional help because she mostly talk about field related topics.