Re: Is it ok to divorce or get one?
Divorce is allowed...whether it was done for the right reasons or not can only be left for the two involved and Allah (swt) to decide.
From what I've seen thought, it's not an easy process...emotionally and legally. Very few people would go through that just because they were 'bored.'
In my opinion, it's one those issues that you'd have to think about on a case by case basis...
Good points Niksik.
From the people around me, I am noticing this attitude of 'hey I can always leave him/her' . Sometimes when people go into a relationship with such a mentality, it's at the back of their mind that they can opt out. All relationships require work, they all have ups and downs. I think there is a growing trend now amongst certain people, I am noticing it esp in my social circle with some friends who are engaged/married who have the attitude that they will not be 'tolerating anything' because 'I'm educated and independent.'
I understand that serious decisions have to be made with certain situations that might arise, but like you said, I think now (some) people think they can just leave each other over minor, insignificant issues.
Agree with above.
Real life example my husband who always concluded any argument b/w us with the threat of divorce and who have always thought that it's so easy for men to get 2nd wife as aj kaal to ghar ghar larkian bheti hain and that men are not suppose to compromise in marriage, it's the wife's job. and children woh to aur aa jaye gay....
Re: Is it ok to divorce or get one?
Dear Sister diamond321
Given your situation, am sad and honestly pray Allah to find a way out for you. But again it is not a child game neither for you and nor for the guy.
Regardless threats he issuing, he has no guts to actually divorcing you, that is the reason all you received empty threats, hoping to make you beg for mercy which is obviously not working.
If you stay strong there would be only two outcomes, either he has no choice but to carry out the threats, or I would not be surprise that he would bowing at your feet for reconcile (both are good).
No matter there are many girls waiting for Rishta, but everyone want to have Rishta in a respectable family. And that's where they would certainly have problem.
My youngest brother is a divorcee, i can tell you it is not easy. He might have another wife, and more children but the other two he is leaving are still his blood and flesh there is no way he would have comfortable life again (neither we).
May Allah make things easy for you.
Dear Sister diamond321
Given your situation, am sad and honestly pray Allah to find a way out for you. But again it is not a child game neither for you and nor of the guy.
Regardless threats he issuing, he has not guts to actually divorcing you, that is the reason all you received empty threats, hoping to make you beg for mercy which is obviously not working for them.
If you stay strong there would be only two outcome, either he has no choice but to carry out the threats, or I would not be surprise that he would bowing at your feet for reconcile with him (both are good out come for good).
No matter there are many girls waiting for Rishta, but everyone want to have Rishta in a respectable family. And that's where they would certainly have problem.
My youngest brother is a divorcee, i can tell you it is not easy. He might have another wife, and more children but the other two he is leaving his still his blood and flesh there no way he would have comfortable life again (neither we).
May Allah make things easy for you.
Thankyou sir for your kind words