is someone tells you they dont like you would you be relief that Thanksgod you dont need to make em happy. you can be yourself.
or convincing someone that you are really nice really caring bla bla bla (which you might be but to particular people.) is this the normal practice???
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it depends on the person, is the person really that important in your life that it's imperative that you try your hardest to impress that person and show them how you really are and that you are a good person.
if it's just some person you met on the subway, i personally would forget about it, they don't make a difference in your life to really put that much effort into convincing them of all your good qualities. so many bigoted, prejudiced, arrogant people out there that stereotype everybody, you can't change all of their thinking
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The trick is to make every hate you and then work from there.
Re: Is it normal??
is someone tells you they dont like you would you be relief that Thanksgod you dont need to make em happy. you can be yourself.
or convincing someone that you are really nice really caring bla bla bla (which you might be but to particular people.) is this the normal practice???
Well it varies from person to person. Some people are pleasers.. They would like to say whatever makes others happy. And thats quite a normal practice.
But some people just dont care. But if the person in question is important enough for you, then you must make an extra effort to make things work.
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Depends on the person. If you share a close relationship with that person, then you'll make a greater effort to sort out misunderstandings. Sometimes, you may not be close to the person, but you feel they have some bearing on your life.........let's say a boss......and you want them to have a positive impression of you, etc. . A stranger makes a hurtful comment...you might dwell on it for a few moments or hours.....but its easier to move on from compared to someone that you have either a greater emotional connection with or you hold in high regard or you feel they have the power to impact your life, etc. Another factor could possibly be that if a person ....whom you may not have been close to...but generally has had a positive impression of you that you're aware of and then that changes. We all have an ego (and we like the feeling of being liked) and the degree to which that ego feels unsettled or even hurt can depend upon who the other person is as well as our own level of emotional security.
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I much rathar have someone tell me they hate me vs ignoring me..
Re: Is it normal??
is someone tells you they dont like you would you be relief that Thanksgod you dont need to make em happy. you can be yourself.
or convincing someone that you are really nice really caring bla bla bla (which you might be but to particular people.) is this the normal practice???
There is only ONE whose likeness and dis-likeness matters, and he knows us inside out.
Yes, nothing wrong in clearing misunderstandings with others.