Is it just me?

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Personally, I wouldnt find it to be that big of a deal. I am sure they have made some arrangements for privacy and whatnot.

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It is their day so let them do what they want.
If it really bothers you you could always ask to help decorate and make it look a lot better, it can be done so don't worry so much and try seeing the positive side of things :)

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This is what bothers me the most:

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anywhere but there cause ive known that masjid for sooo long now and mostly know everyone who comes there...
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Are you ashamed of getting married? or the person you're marrying?

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Yesterday, one of my childhood friend got married in Masjid. I must say it was awesome!. The wedding was segregated in one hall. But nevertheless it was fun!. It was held in Nugget Mosque for those of you from Toronto. The point is, many people probably do not want to spend too much on lavishness. There is nothing wrong with that. I actually find that very humbling though!. However, did you talk to your husband? what does he say about this personally?.

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I do like nikah ceremonies in the masjid but walima does sound a bit weird. Are they going to have desi food in the prayer hall? I've seen dinners at mosques before but they always do it in a separate hall or floor, away from the main prayer hall.

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you cannot insult someone's husband-to-be like this in public

learn some manners

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and learn to butt out

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then why are you so worried about the Walima ?

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Perhaps you are forgetting about the whole concept of marriage. Just ask yourself; do you get married for the whole extravangant affair, or because you are starting a new life with a soulmate?!

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Never heard of that before. Offer to spend a few days at the masjid with the whole khandan instead?
P.S. Are they religious?

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Focus your energy on the marriage and not the wedding. I am crossing my fingers you know the difference between the two.

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valima is guy side event. let them do what they want.

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I believe the reason that the OP does not want the Valima in the masjid is because of the fact that random people coming to the masjid can join in. If the Valima is in the main part of the masjid, then indeed that is a valid concern - I wouldn't want random people to just come and stare at the "dulhan". But if the function is taking place in a hall within the masjid, then I don't see a problem there. Communicate with your parents and fiance and see what's going on.

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I wish girls thought the way you do. My ex-girlfriend always was type of person who wanted to hijack our potential wedding perhaps valima decorations etc.

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Most Masjids have a separate hall for these kind of functions. I have attended many valimas and shadies , in halls attached to Masjids and they were by invitation only any random person will not walk into those celebration. Anybody who comes to masjid to pray namaz is not a random person , he is guest of Allah and I will be honored if that random person joins in the party I am having at Masjid.

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Relax you all! Don't judge her for having a liking for something and considering her any less Islamic for not wanting a wedding in masjid. Every one dreams of their wedding a particular type; every one dreams to celebrate it differently and if she knows many people in the masjid she is of course conscious of their comments and again their JUDGEMENT about her valima. People react differently when things are different from their expectations!

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oh no :( such paindu-ness, what kind of people have you gotten mixed-up with...:(

PS: just kidding, let it be, wedding and Valima and all is a few days, marriage is a lifetime...dont start off on the wrong foot by making the big deal about one evening :) let it go.

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Yaaar, you dont need to justify gate crashing all those desi dawats at the islamic center, its okay, we are not judging. :)