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^ here's the tissue clean your face and clothes.. .. "they will take care"
But even during namaz our mind wonders around . U know . I think its natural and normal . One shouldn't punish him/herself for that .
But it's different then. "Fantasizing" means that you Intentionally imagine someone.
Lol, by real people i meant people they know in real life, u know someone elses husband, coworker, etc 
Okay no joke but I’e also read that guys will think about totally non-sexual things as well, and it might be counterintuitive but it seems to make sense 
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I wish I could read minds.
But even during namaz our mind wonders around . U know . I think its natural and normal . One shouldn't punish him/herself for that .
But it's different then. "Fantasizing" means that you Intentionally imagine someone.
I agree with Hareem here. If you start thinking/fantasizing/imagining in Namaz that the sajda you are doing is in front of non-Allah then your namaz (I think) is no longer valid, in fact it might be kufr.
I agree with Hareem here. If you start thinking/fantasizing/imagining in Namaz that the sajda you are doing is in front of non-Allah then your namaz (I think) is no longer valid, in fact it might be kufr.
Shukran Shukran. This is for the first time that TLK has agreed with my post.
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How would you even find out that he's mentally cheating on you?
FEW people would admit to their partner that they were fantasizing about another person AT ALL.......let alone during physical intimacy.
mera bhi din aye ga 
and maybe for the last time 
ask hareem for the wazeefa that she did for me to agree with her. 
*I was having a discussion with my friend, let's call her kino, and she was of the opinion that fantasizing about another person during intimate acts is considered cheating. I disagreed as I have a different standard of cheating. What do you guys think? *
How would you even find out that he's mentally cheating on you? .
Baat ka batangaR bananaa koi aap se seekhai ...where did she say that her hubby is mentally cheating on her?
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i blame cosmo.
before someone comes n says....i blame the bollywood movies.
What he really means is…money… or rishwat…in exchange for concurrence. 
ask hareem for the wazeefa that she did for me to agree with her. :D
No, sir. I shall do it all by myself or it ain't worth it at all.
I'm off GS now. Allah Hafiz everyone.
*How would you even find out that he's mentally cheating on you? *
FEW people would admit to their partner that they were fantasizing about another person AT ALL.......let alone during physical intimacy.
Relationships are based on an honor system.
Baat ka batangaR bananaa koi aap se seekhai ...where did she say that her hubby is mentally cheating on her?
I was talking about the issue generally. How would you know that someone...hubby/wife/partner is fantasizing or "mentally cheating" (people have different standards for cheating) when few would admit to it.
Relationships are based on an honor system.
Yes, I'm aware of that. And I also know that an honor system involves trust. But human nature isn't perfect and there's no guarantee. As I said before, few people would admit to it.
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Yup, so you have to live your life hoping you don't become a victim of that or are the guilty party. I always think like this...you do small small emotional blunders brushing them off as being insignificant or "normal" by today's standards and soon you find yourself in bigger and deeper challenges. So I think as humans who are subjected to all kinds of distractions, we must continue to check ourselves and look at getting back to purity of thought and loyalty in relationships as soon as we go astray. There is no justification for "cheating" of any sort except a lack of conscience and loss of selfcontrol.
Yup, so you have to live your life hoping you don't become a victim of that or are the guilty party. I always think like this...you do small small emotional blunders brushing them off as being insignificant or "normal" by today's standards and soon you find yourself in bigger and deeper challenges. So I think as humans who are subjected to all kinds of distractions, we must continue to check ourselves and look at getting back to purity of thought and loyalty in relationships as soon as we go astray. There is no justification for "cheating" of any sort except a lack of conscience and loss of selfcontrol.
I never said there was a justification. Even the lack of control/conscience wouldn't be a justification....there are just reasons that are given (that are not good enough).
I was only saying that whether or not such fantasizing takes place....it's something that few people would find out about because few would feel comfortable admitting it....(if they did it). Not saying it's justification. Apart from fantasizing....there are other ways in which we all slip up as well. And the better thing is for one to realize that they're straying and make the effort to come back to the right path. You try to better yourself....true......but generally speaking.....the "straying" whether physically or mentally...is not always revealed. I was just thinking that if the OP's friend is concerned about such fantasizing...it's something that she may not ever find out about.
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Great! (to Niksik)
It is true that mind can wander. And thoughts cannot be controlled.
If one really loves the spouse then at least one can do is to try to brush off the thoughts and not accept stray thoughts to dwell.
A person cannot really find out of other being not 100% with him/her.
Perhaps just expect the good thing and follow don't ask/don't tell policy. Why place scratches on the glass, otherwise one day the glass may break in to pieces!
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In THAT situation I doubt if any man can push his real brain to fantasize about someone else . Blame flow of blood . Lets blame women for this . :p