I never said there was a justification. Even the lack of control/conscience wouldn’t be a justification…there are just reasons that are given (that are not good enough).
I was only saying that whether or not such fantasizing takes place…it’s something that few people would find out about because few would feel comfortable admitting it…(if they did it). Not saying it’s justification. Apart from fantasizing…there are other ways in which we all slip up as well. And the better thing is for one to realize that they’re straying and make the effort to come back to the right path. You try to better yourself…true…but generally speaking…the “straying” whether physically or mentally…is not always revealed. I was just thinking that if the OP’s friend is concerned about such fantasizing…it’s something that she may not ever find out about.