Subbo, it’s possible that maybe the girl he married is better equipped (personality wise and emotionally) to handle the challenges that will come with being his wife (such as his MIL).
I think it is written in the Quran that maybe what you desire is harmful for you and what you dislike is beneficial for you. This could the case here. Maybe Allah thought you were better suited for someone else…and He made you see this later.
I think it would be more selfish if you enjoyed this girl’s suffering or if you were smug about it to lessen the sting of rejection. Being grateful without being smug is not selfish. And if you desire to help this girl out and comfort here…then you shouldn’t feel guilty. You have a good heart…few people would even desire to help out the girl who ended up with their former crush. And if you can manage to say or do something that would bring her a bit of piece…then more power to you :k: Just don’t ever tell her that you used to have a crush on him, that has the potential to create a very sticky and embarrassing situation.