Is it a right decision taken...

blessed2006 · January 12, 2011, 8:11pm

Re: Is it a right decision taken…

Hello Everyone!
I want just to share something with you people which has been bothering me as of whether what i did was right or not.
I had a close friend,and our friendship grew & it changed into love.He wanted to marry me,and he let his mother know about me,but his mother,having had gone through a sour love marriage herself,didn’t want her son to take the same step,and so, she wanted her son to marry someone she would choose for him.The other reasons she gave for disapproving me were that,there was no age gap between us and we are both of the same age,with just a couple of months difference,and secondly because we both are culturally different.So,she kept rejecting me,but he had always taken a stand for me,and both mother & son used to have fights because of me,so much so that he was willing to marry me without his mom’s approval,but i rejected this idea as i didn’t want that he should leave his mom because of me, neither i wanted to make my parents face any kind of humiliation with any of my such step.
My parents aren’t willing to accept him either because his mom doesn’t approve of this rishta.my parents have confirmed my rishta with one of my cousins whom i don’t really like.But i see no other option for me,as I can’t really try further making my parents agreed,as his mom isn’t agreeing.
So, seeing really no future with this guy,i broke all the contacts with him,and have decided to move away,as i believe it is going to be more painful,if we stayed in contact and as the attachment would grow more,because i really don’t see anything positive happening between us as his mother is really a stubborn lady.
So, I want to ask,is it a right step which i have taken to break off all the contacts with him?

You have made a very good choice. well done…jin shaadiyon main maa baap ki marzi nahi hoti woh zaida arsa nahi chalti. u kept your parents dignity that is really good.

now as for your rishta being confirmed with your cousin. i think you should speak to your parents in detail and tell them that you dont like him. rather ask them that “its my marriage dont i have any rights to say yes or no?”. lets see what they say. all the best