How many of you look up people online whose proposals you get directly or through rishtey wale people?.
Is it a good idea to so so? in case you may happen to like someone but things may not go well in that rishta as in they don’t like you or your family may have reservations about that particular proposal.
This is actually regarding a friend of mine who is very particular about the guy she wants to marry so as soon as she gets the info about the proposal she tries to find more about the guy either through net or if there may be common friends/links. And this way she usually shortlists the candidates she thinks could be a good match for her. However this time she really liked this guy and she happen to have seen lots of pics of him on fb (mutual friend) and he seems like a fun person, the kind she could see herself spending her rest of life with. So finally she narrowed down on that rishta but she got rejected based on her healthy figure which i personally am finding a little hard to digest cuz 1) She is not FAT 2) Most girls do get slim down more before wedding 3) The said they liked the family and everything else but just that the girl was slightly healthy. So hmm that doesnt really click. Who would leave a good proposal just because the girl was healthy.
So now she is really upset cuz she really liked the guy. I have told her its just infatuation and she would get over it soon. Also since she got rejected she is being tempted towards him all the more but she is sane enough to understand that it’s not love. However its just upsetting for her since its hard to find people she feels a connection with. But i explained to her that same way the other person has the right to see if they find a connection with you or not whether it be thru physical looks or anything at all.
Anyways, i suggested she refrain from going through alot of info on the guy before things go in the right direction for that particular rishta. As some people have the tendency to get attached to people very eaisly and if things don’t work out they can be miserable. Another friend of hers, who is actually quite older than her, suggested she gets unhealthy (lolz, loose little bit of extra weight she may have) and get the guy on her own. Lol! I told her that was too complicated and unnecessary and she agrees with me but hurray to the aunty’s idea. No wonder the same aunty is friends with alot of young girls :p.
If it is someone you don't really know, it couldn't hurt. Depends on how far you go.
My bro's friend goggled a rishta and found out that she had been married twice and had three children. And a rishta wali aunty was telling me about this girl who found out from facebook that this guy had two wives already in some other country.
my bros friend is a computer whiz and works for apple so I think he knows his way around a computer and he had her e-mail, name, and bday and for the girl, she had his email and she found him on fb and he had his bio written in arabic so she got someone to translate and it was something about his wife and then it went on from there.
I'm not too sure about the girl, but I do know that they found out that he already had two wives and turned down the rishta but that is what I've heard.
I just googled myself (full name) and I got my Facebook profile, Linkedin profile, a comment I left on a blog two years ago, and my IGCSE achievements mentioned in some article
Nope. If she was fat i would have said so, i am very honest with my friends. Yes, if they wanted a “model” figure they should have precisely mentioned that before when they were on the talking stages.
Omg.
Now that’s even more scary :(. Why and how do people hide such things.
Employers do it all the time, so it makes even more sense to do your homework on a prospective rishta. In Pakistan it goes a few steps further than that, a chachu or a mamoo will actually volunteer to stalk the prospective guy’s workplace etc and interview acquaintances of his
Yeah, I've seen people do it in my dad's extended family. The first time I saw this I was like wow that is totally an invasion of privacy, but it actually happens a lot here.
Yeah, I've seen people do it in my dad's extended family. The first time I saw this I was like wow that is totally an invasion of privacy, but it actually happens a lot here.
Ok. I guess people are pushed to this extreme because of horrible things that have come out after marriage in so many cases. Don't know if we can really blame them for being so fussy.
Yeah, I've seen people do it in my dad's extended family. The first time I saw this I was like wow that is totally an invasion of privacy, but it actually happens a lot here.
When googling isn't an option, that's the next best thing I think. Better to be more cautious than be sorry later.
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