Is internet powerful enough to play with emotions?

[Shikra]

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So there are lots of wanna be and fraudia out there. ....!

Yeah, we got one of them on Gupshup too.

[SheeN]

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^

[Prince_Ali]

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@Pathani

Yes, it indeed is a powerful tool…
I dont mind admitting it. Perhaps others could learn from my mistake.
I was Moderator at some other Forum, Urdu…in poetry section.
Now after a long period, the owner/admin/etc. proposed and our families
began to talk and eventually plan wedding etc.
This coward, he had promissed yet another woman marriage BEFORE
even getting married with me, which I didnt know of. Im not the jealous type,
always knew he had tons of xs and girlfriends wanting to have him…but since he was engaged with me, I didnt feel insecure until the day, he told me
this girlfriend cooked meals for him and would dress up to meet him…

Now, sadly enough…it was my own choice. I was naive and trusted him with a lot of money…Business in his name, as the stupid dumb Pathani I am. aqlless Im now divorced and at peace. More succesfull than ever, thanks to Allahjee. But my pride and trust in people…is equal zero. He could had given me a choice, I would never had gone for him IF I knew his dirty niath.

So there are lots of wanna be and fraudia out there. My mum’s health was really affected by my blunder… There is no difference between a thief and such a pathetic man. But Allahjee has surely dealt with both of them…!

aww! sad indeed, thanx for sharing it with us, i have been through the similar situation as yours. I know how depressing it is.

@goodnews

1. People are falling in love not only on internet even in the real world and getting hurt:desimunda:
It depends how “aqalmand” U R. because u could figured it out if some one is saying hey I am in love with U or U R my jano:wink: That means he/she is just kidding. It doesn’t mean he/she wants to hurt any body,s feelings.
If someone never indicate you that she/he that she/she wants to make personal relation it is UR or that person’s mistake( who falls in LOVE blindly) khyr bachpany ky ishaq aysy hi hoty hain be positive. Don’t think ky jysi muhubbat mujhy os sy hy woh bhi kary.
Arry MuhhabaT nam hi azadi dyny ka hy. Pehly sirf khwateen gati thin,
Woh mera ho na ska tu main bura kion manon
Os ko haq hy woh jisy chahy osy piyar karyyyy
Ab internet ki badolat mashaAllah hamary now jwan bhi yeh gaty nazar atty hain:hehe:
As long as any thing is on the internet don,t be serious becasue every one is looking for better, as a poet says,
Hy Khub sy khub tar kahan
So if a girl found better person then you let her get him:(
No Doubt internet is a powerful weapon but still my personal opinion is no it is not enough to play with emotions. We are humaneness we need to adjust our emotions and try to understand others.
for example kisi arain ko kaha jay Arain gandy khain tu kaion ka dil totty ga kai aysy hain ju hans parin gy.(Arainon sy muazrat ky sath:wink: )Ab masla yeh hy ki jin masail pr dukh hona chahiy on pr nahi hota jin par hansna chahiy on pr ham roty hain:D
PS: Jumla awam ka meri ray sy sehmat hona zaroori nahi yeh meri zati sifati ray hy.

wah! kafi kuch seekhne ko mila, apna tajarba share karne ke liye shukriya. hmm, apko nahi lagta ke pyar boys ki kamzori hai? i mean ke boys ko phasaana ya chakma dena, on or off internet its a peice of cake?

@sweet_taboo

The first time I got the net was when I was in my early teens, it was those AOL dial up ones…

I met this Bible-belt American my age in an AOL chatroom and thought I was in love, lol…
My God the conversations we would have, we’d probably have been lynched or stoned if either of our communities read them, it was a breath of fresh air, we were so different yet so similar, we were from completely different cultures yet had the same issues… We would talk about eloping and running away when we turned 18, we’d never even seen each but we had mental images from the descriptions we gave each other, we use to talk about settling down and buying our own farm in Devon or America, lolz, we had it all planned…
I use to get goosebumps every time I heard that “door creaking sound” that happens when ever someone comes online on AOL..

Once my papi was reading Urdu news on the Jang website using my username and this other person starts sending me this big message “Hiya sexy, I’ve been thinking about you all day at school today, I couldn’t keep my hands off myself…” My God, my father was disgusted “yeh kiya bayhooda bakwaas hai?”

“Abbu koi dost hai, aisay hi mazaak kar raha hai”, he wasn’t convinced but I guess due to the awardness of it all he pretended to be.

God I was so different back then, I could never run away and envision a life like that now..

omg! i dont think this kinda incidents still take place since every individual has got his/her own pc now, so yeah, chances of this happening are low.

@Vedic_Intellect

relationships over the internet? Only losers with no social life would go for something like that.

**I disagree!
Well! what if u cant find miss right in social life, u gotta take advantage of internet then. **

@Shikra

Yeah, we got one of them on Gupshup too.

ur not referring to pir sahab, are u?

[amana]

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The internet is just a tool, albeit a powerful one. People need to hold themselves personally accountable for the nonsense they get up to when online.

If a person has no moral values or common sense to begin with, then yes, the internet can help them get into trouble more easily, but if they were already responsible, they are inclined to behave responsibly online.

[Pathani]

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Vedic_Intellect: relationships over the internet? Only losers with no social life would go for something like that.
^You have your views and I have mine…
The Muslim community abroad is under rapid change (our pre-defined roles of the past, which used to work out for our parents).
When arranged marriages go wrong too, then alternative options dont seem that bad.
Inter-net is here to stay. It is not any different than adversiting for a rishta in newspapers or contacting a marriage-bureau even… Either way, if it is out side the family the rishta is arranged…there are simply no guarantees. Not even family relations are the same any longer.

In my own case, I didnt fall for anything extra ordinary…yes, he was a known bachelor of his community and we just had some interests in common, I thought…

Prince Ali:
yup, yet Ive never been as strong or succesful as I am now. It made me, rather than break me. I already “earned” it all back again and even more. Im selfmade and he is Pathani made…my peace of mind and izzat is more precious than a looser as him. Im not into drama or scenes, so she can have keep him

TeraDulha:
Yes Im aware, infact there is a trial heading… I had all the proof. Thanks for your tip.

To all:
I dont know… Is through the net an actual love thingy than what I perceive being an understanding thingy? Gora wouldnt do.

[hareem01]

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@sweet_taboo

The first time I got the net was when I was in my early teens, it was those AOL dial up ones…

I met this Bible-belt American my age in an AOL chatroom and thought I was in love, lol…

My God the conversations we would have, we’d probably have been lynched or stoned if either of our communities read them, it was a breath of fresh air, we were so different yet so similar, we were from completely different cultures yet had the same issues… We would talk about eloping and running away when we turned 18, we’d never even seen each but we had mental images from the descriptions we gave each other, we use to talk about settling down and buying our own farm in Devon or America, lolz, we had it all planned…

I use to get goosebumps every time I heard that “door creaking sound” that happens when ever someone comes online on AOL..

Once my papi was reading Urdu news on the Jang website using my username and this other person starts sending me this big message “Hiya sexy, I’ve been thinking about you all day at school today, I couldn’t keep my hands off myself…” My God, my father was disgusted “yeh kiya bayhooda bakwaas hai?”

“Abbu koi dost hai, aisay hi mazaak kar raha hai”, he wasn’t convinced but I guess due to the awardness of it all he pretended to be.

God I was so different back then, I could never run away and envision a life like that now..

[goodnews]

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@Prince_Ali

wah! kafi kuch seekhne ko mila, apna tajarba share karne ke liye shukriya. hmm, apko nahi lagta ke pyar boys ki kamzori hai? i mean ke boys ko phasaana ya chakma dena, on or off internet its a peice of cake?

No! I don,t think so ky boys ya girsl kisi ko bhi chakma dyna asan hy han mery 6 bhaion main sy do(2) chakma kha chuky aik (1)mazak samjhta hy or mazaq main urata hy. Ham jab on ky nakam ishq share krty thy or hansty thy tu mujhy kafi seekhny ko mila. Choota achi bhi yahoo chat sy mili hoi larki sy shadi krny pr tulla hy ham ny bat bhi chalai magar larki waly kehty hain ham Jaat hain or larki ky walid bary sakhat hain flan dhikan larki ky walid line pr nahi a atty. Main ny kai bar kaha Aunty ap uncle ko phone dain ham bat krty hain ky aj kal zat paat kon dykhta hy magar majal hy ju Abba phone pakry.
Main ny tu bhai ko yehi samjhya ky mian mujhy lagta hy yeh kuch larkian mil kr tumhin bywaquf bna rahi hain ky jab ham call karin ya woh ammi bat krti hain bap ka ron aroti hain ky bra sakht hy.
Magar yaqeen mano woh hy ky manta nahi ham ny bhi keh diya lagy raho munna bhai aik din khud aqal ay gi:cb:So hamar yeh chootha bhai abhi is ka tjarba adhora hy mukamal hoa tu kuch keh sakon gi ky dill tota ya joora:D
PS: 1.sab sy bari bywaqufi ki bat yeh hy ky os ny ab tak sirf phone pr bat ki hy os sy dykha tak nahi or ishq main mubtla:hehe:
2. Ham logon ny kabhi nternet ko qasor war nahi thehraya ham samjhty hain ky istymal krny waly ka qasoor hy ky woh kysy is tool ko use krta hy .
3.Sab sy bari cheez qismat agar kisi ki shadi ho jay:wink:

[decent_Felow]

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No! I don,t think so ky boys ya girsl kisi ko bhi chakma dyna asan hy han mery 6 bhaion main sy do chakma kha chuky aik mazak samjhta hy or mazaq main urata hy. Ham jab on ky nakam ishq share krty thy or hansty thy tu mujhy kafi seekhny ko mila. Choota achi bhi yahoo chat sy mili hoi larki sy shadi krny pr tulla hy ham ny bat bhi chalai magar larki waly kehty hain ham Jaat hain or larki ky walid bary sakhat hain flan dhikan larki ky walid line pr nahi a rahy. Main ny tu bhai ko yehi samjhya ky mian mujhy lagta hy yeh kuch larkian mil kr tumhin bywaquf bna rahi hain ky jab ham call karin ya woh ammi bat krti hain bap ka ron aroti hain ky bra sakht hy.
Magar yaqeen mano woh hy ky manta nahi ham ny bhi keh diy alagy raho munna bhai aik din khud aqal ay gi:cb:So hamar yeh chootha bhai abhi is ka tjarba adhora hy mukamal hoa tu kuch keh sakon gi ky dill tota ya joora

OOoooHHH just 2 …**

sachii abt chotaaa …khair hai bacha hai …bachay gir gie ka seeektai hainn..

ap ka family be interestin hai
**

[goodnews]

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@decent_Felow

OOoooHHH just 2 …

sachii abt chotaaa …khair hai bacha hai …bachay gir gie ka seeektai hainn..

ap ka family be interestin hai

LOL bilkul 100% sach You Know 4th one k aishq “On Air” hy ham kehty hain:D Yes we R interesting family:bulbuli:No doubt

[K337]

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Yesh yesh its really powerfull:smokin:

mom doesnt know abt any of the affair i have over net:chai:

[Prince_Ali]

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The internet is just a tool, albeit a powerful one. People need to hold themselves personally accountable for the nonsense they get up to when online. If a person has no moral values or common sense to begin with, then yes, the internet can help them get into trouble more easily, but if they were already responsible, they are inclined to behave responsibly online.

I agree with you, every story has two sides and excess in something isnt good. Internet is like a world on its own, its on us how we use it. But we gotta carry on after what we have been through because of internet, i dont think we should blame ourselves (for the rest of our lives) for the trouble we got into.

Prince Ali: yup, yet Ive never been as strong or succesful as I am now. It made me, rather than break me. I already "earned" it all back again and even more. Im selfmade and he is Pathani made.....my peace of mind and izzat is more precious than a looser as him. Im not into drama or scenes, so she can have keep him ;-)

wah! well put. You are strong, love your spirit. I knew this friend of mine, who became like devdas after a girl betrayed him over internet. lol. So its like, it broke him rather than making him, he should've been a man but afsos.

[Prince_Ali]

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@goodnews

No! I don,t think so ky boys ya girsl kisi ko bhi chakma dyna asan hy han mery 6 bhaion main sy do(2) chakma kha chuky aik (1)mazak samjhta hy or mazaq main urata hy. Ham jab on ky nakam ishq share krty thy or hansty thy tu mujhy kafi seekhny ko mila. Choota achi bhi yahoo chat sy mili hoi larki sy shadi krny pr tulla hy ham ny bat bhi chalai magar larki waly kehty hain ham Jaat hain or larki ky walid bary sakhat hain flan dhikan larki ky walid line pr nahi a atty. Main ny kai bar kaha Aunty ap uncle ko phone dain ham bat krty hain ky aj kal zat paat kon dykhta hy magar majal hy ju Abba phone pakry.
Main ny tu bhai ko yehi samjhya ky mian mujhy lagta hy yeh kuch larkian mil kr tumhin bywaquf bna rahi hain ky jab ham call karin ya woh ammi bat krti hain bap ka ron aroti hain ky bra sakht hy.
Magar yaqeen mano woh hy ky manta nahi ham ny bhi keh diya lagy raho munna bhai aik din khud aqal ay gi:cb:So hamar yeh chootha bhai abhi is ka tjarba adhora hy mukamal hoa tu kuch keh sakon gi ky dill tota ya joora:D
PS: 1.sab sy bari bywaqufi ki bat yeh hy ky os ny ab tak sirf phone pr bat ki hy os sy dykha tak nahi or ishq main mubtla:hehe:
2. Ham logon ny kabhi nternet ko qasor war nahi thehraya ham samjhty hain ky istymal krny waly ka qasoor hy ky woh kysy is tool ko use krta hy .
3.Sab sy bari cheez qismat agar kisi ki shadi ho jay:wink:

**array chakma dena asaan hai tabhi to aapke bhai ko phasaya gaya na, mere dost ko bhi aise hi phasaya gaya tha, jab usko ko pata chala ke woh larki sirf time pass kar rahi thi to bechara devdas jaise dialoges bolne laga to mein ne kaha tu ne bhi to mazay liye hein to afsos kis baat ka . Abhi aap cafe mein ek thread kholen gi ke aap single hein ya kuch aur hein to aapko kitni replies milen gi, agar mein kholoon ga to koi dekhay ga bhi nahi. So i think loves is our weakest point. Lekin masla hai ke boys 10 baar thokar kha kar bhi nahi sudartay (including myself). Lekin kafi logon ki shaadi internet ki wajah se hi hui hai, shayad unki kismat achi hai. Shuru mein chatting phir dosti hoti hai phir pyar phir shaadi (phir shayad barbaadi). **

[goodnews]

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@Prince_Ali

array chakma dena asaan hai tabhi to aapke bhai ko phasaya gaya na, mere dost ko bhi aise hi phasaya gaya tha, jab usko ko pata chala ke woh larki sirf time pass kar rahi thi to bechara devdas jaise dialoges bolne laga to mein ne kaha tu ne bhi to mazay liye hein to afsos kis baat ka Abhi aap cafe mein ek thread kholen gi ke aap single hein ya kuch aur hein to aapko kitni replies milen gi, agar mein kholoon ga to koi dekhay ga bhi nahi. So i think loves is our weakest point. Lekin masla hai ke boys 10 baar thokar kha kar bhi nahi sudartay (including myself). Lekin kafi logon ki shaadi internet ki wajah se hi hui hai, shayad unki kismat achi hai. Shuru mein chatting phir dosti hoti hai phir pyar phir shaadi (phir shayad barbaadi). **

Tum pr tu woh gana fit ata hy
Choti si umar main lag giya rog
LOL Bilkul sahih kaha magar bychary kanwary larkon ki tu samjh ati hy magar ju shadi shuda ghagh mard larkian phnasaty hain na or on sy phans bhi jati hain on pr ghusa ata hy{yahn kisi ka talkh tajarba bhi add karon gi yad dilana kal:)

[Hum_Hain_Lajawab]

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Internet is a useful tool as long as you let it stay useful. When the internet controls you and you don't control the internet, that's when the trouble starts

[decent_Felow]

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LOL bilkul 100% sach You Know 4th one k aishq “On Air” hy ham kehty hain:D Yes we R interesting family:bulbuli:No doubt

till him ka bhoool jao , muskorao reh nah jie baaaaaat baqiii

[mizzrani]

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internet is a indeed a powerfull and usefull tool . it allows you to communicate with ppl all over the world and meet new friends.

but love on teh internet is a whole different story , i understand that it does happen but i think unles you dont meet each other with tlkin on the net the relationship wont be that real as sum people deliberately pretend to be somefin dey are not.

but some ppl hve met on the net and then gotten married.

[inzi_rocks]

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[goodnews]

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@decent_Felow

till him ka bhoool jao , muskorao reh nah jie baaaaaat baqiii

Han tu ki amain muskurati nahi:aq: Main tu hamysha qahqahy lgati hon unless ky … or … qisam ky message … and … qisam ky mods ki traf sy na a jain buhat sy guppys even most respected ko bhi ye issue darpysh hy tu please khali jga apni passan dky piyar bhary lafz sy pur karin yani fil in the blank with appropriat word:hehe:
So ab aik intersting bat mery bhaion ny apny e-mail addresses ky pass word mujhy dy rakhy hain mujhy liy woh kehty hain jwab dy diya karo tumhara net tyz hy so agar kisi friend ny koi ghazal ya poem bhyji hy jwab dy diya karo ta ky dyr sy jwab ky sabba dosti na tooty khyr aj sy 5 sal pehly ki bat hy there was an online friend of my bro … I will be back ok wait then I will complete yeh sachi bat CU

[decent_Felow]

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Han tu ki amain muskurati nahi:aq: Main tu hamysha qahqahy lgati hon unless ky … or … qisam ky message … and … qisam ky mods ki traf sy na a jain buhat sy guppys even most respected ko bhi ye issue darpysh hy tu please khali jga apni passan dky piyar bhary lafz sy pur karin yani fil in the blank with appropriat word:hehe:
So ab aik intersting bat mery bhaion ny apny e-mail addresses ky pass word mujhy dy rakhy hain mujhy liy woh kehty hain jwab dy diya karo tumhara net tyz hy so agar kisi friend ny koi ghazal ya poem bhyji hy jwab dy diya karo ta ky dyr sy jwab ky sabba dosti na tooty khyr aj sy 5 sal pehly ki bat hy there was an online friend of my bro … I will be back ok wait then I will complete yeh sachi bat CU

internet tou mera be bhoot taaaz hai … we r actually kinda immature …or yeh Joo ap ne mentioned kiya hai yeh to immaturity ki peak hai …pak mai logo ki itnii awareness nahi hoti nah hee exposure …

soo chal ta … Larikiyoon ki to lottery nikle howee hai sub ki nahi …bus kush ki … so let thm play ths FOUL GAME

[goodnews]

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@decent_Felow

internet tou mera be bhoot taaaz hai … we r actually kinda immature …or yeh Joo ap ne mentioned kiya hai yeh to immaturity ki peak hai …pak mai logo ki itnii awareness nahi hoti nah hee exposure …

soo chal ta … Larikiyoon ki to lottery nikle howee hai sub ki nahi …bus kush ki … so let thm play ths FOUL GAME

**Hay hay kiya inkisari hy kinda immature. I don’t know what kind of uinternet connection you have but in Multan I know I even don’t like to login from there ittna sust hy ky Alaman **