is he stingy or am i fazool karch?

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The quit hogging man. Share the bountiful wealth!

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This.

In fact I think you'd hit the roof if he was buying anything for his mum.

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Nadz...with all due respect, I think you need to stop over thinking everything or a few years (possibly months) from now, you're going to have a bleeding ulcer from all the worrying. Perhaps your hubby could find a more tactful way to inquire about the gifts you want to give, but based on the facts as you've stated them, I don't think he's being unreasonable. You yourself have posted how things have been tough since he hasn't been able to find work in his field and I believe you aren't working either, correct? So I would assume that things are tight right now and it may not be the best time for gift giving beyond the usual birthdays and eids. There's nothing shameful about that. Times are tough and we have to look at our own needs before extras like gifts. Perhaps that is the point your hubby is trying to make when he asks why you've purchased XYZ for whoever.

As for the gift for your dad...I don't think he's looking for excuses to get out of buying something. I think he's questioning very validly the purpose behind buying something for 30 pounds when it's simply going to be collecting dust after the wrapping paper has been discarded. I went to a birthday for my 6 year old niece a few weeks back. I purchased a baking set for her at a very reasonable price. When she was opening her gifts, she practically ignored what I'd given her in favor of all the brightly packaged barbies and jewelry and a makeup set for her dolls. Two months later, the barbies, jewelry and makeup are growing mold in a closet somewhere. She uses her baking kit to make cupcakes every few days. I didn't spend as much as others on my gift...but hubby and I put a lot of thought into it based on her personality. Gifts can be meaningful without having to be expensive.

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You mean there are people out there who don't know who Frank Drebin is? Oh cruel world, what hast thou done? :(

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sigh

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Nadz, for once i kinda can understand what you are saying and why you feel this. I dont like kanjus people at all and esp those who think so much before buying other people gifts. I believe we should never hold back or go stingy in giving others gifts esp our family. We should give people what we think is good not to just give for the sake of it and not really wanting to give something nice and something you would also like for yourself.

The fact that he was not very interested in pitching in for grocerry while staying with your parents is def not a good thing and it would def put me off.

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Nadz hun i also undrstand wher ur coming from, i guess the fact is neither is he stingy and nor r u fazool kharch. Every girl likes to buy gifts n stuff for her family.. but i guess u need to compromise on ur financial stability aswell.

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This is why "traditional values" in a marriage exist! In my marriage I will always discuss any purchase with him. I just think it is fool-hearted to purchase things a person will not use. Saving your money is good, spending your money together is good, being informed on what you expect financially prior to being married is good.

WHat ever happened to understanding what is expected of your SO? Too many people live in the dark, not being aware of what pleases the other. OR,* not caring* about what pleases each other, and going ahead with our own ideals regardless of the harm done in small steps to our marriages.

Small cuts into the foundation of a marriage will eventually topple the castle.

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hain?

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you are definitely fazool karch...like most women are, give them 1000 $ and all is gone within 3-4 days