is he stingy or am i fazool karch?

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@nadz123

how do you know? i always want to buy stuff, either for me, or family, or him, or even his family i always think of things to send. he however, doesnt. either for himself or anyone. ok so its someones bday he will, he will and can be generous at times, but i dont know why i feel guilty everytime i want to buy my own mother something, i feel like i need to explain. i shouldnt feel bad, neiother does he say no, but he does kyun leri ho, kis liye, all the time, he never has happily said yeh go buy ur mum whatever, i did say once when we were living with them, that we should also do grocery shopping, he said do it then…however he didnt openly say we should do it, i feel as if he doesnt want to and im making him. he never says to melets buy ur sis/mum/dad/bro etc this unless its a bday..

my dad has all the latest gadgets, machinery gym eqipt, he never uses it, however for his bday i wanted to get a foot spa, i know he wont use it, but when my husband said kyun leri ho, he wont use itand instead pointed to something that was £30, i felt like he was looking a get out clause for buying anything expensive,

i dont know, i could be someone who likes spending, maybe im a typcial woman, however i feel like i need to explain purchases or explain things to him, albeit he never asks for one, or even insists hes joking.

mountain out of a molehill?

is he stingy? or im wrong?

According to how I spend my money, I’d say you over spend.

When you’re always buying stuff for people, you are not giving him a chance to think about buying stuff for other people, because you’re already doing it. You can’t blame him for not telling you to buy stuff for them.

I can understand your feeling to have to explain, even if he doesn’t ask for it. You are probably aware that he is not a fan of you buying stuff all the time, without him ever saying that explicitly. That is what makes you conscious whenever you buy stuff and so feel the need to explain.

I can’t say if your husband is stingy because I don’t have enough info there. But it doesn’t sound stingy to me.