ahem ahem…yes I’m back after the busy long weekend and a lil shocked after reading the posts…lol…Ah man and I thought it was going all smooth hehe…and someone actually opened another thread related to this one sarcastically:biggthumb(havent had the time to read it yet though)…Well some responses were very interesting I have to admit. Yet some were very emotional. Anyways this was just a lil survey because of what I had been hearing as I haven’t experienced doing anything for my fiance yet well maybe cooking when he comes over sometimes…But I would have to agree that when its all being done with love then there is no you or me…it becomes “us.” and MAN some poeple get so emotional here 
I didn’t know if I asked a question people would think that was my belief or my way of thinking?? anyhooo thanx everyone