Re: is having a man like having a child to take care of
any individual who does not fit the criteria of a chronological age wise obvious, chold or adolescent is not a child and that is how the individual is supposed to be treated.
Re: is having a man like having a child to take care of
I never asked , but my wife will do laundry, iron clothes, cook, keep the house clean and million of other things around house. We have three kids. I go to work, she stays home does all that and still gets time to watch a movie or some TV shows she like. It is all her love that is why she will do all this and be done and not complain about too much work.
Change of scenario, I have a friend whose wife will try to do all this but will be complaining all the time about too much work around house and she being tired and she will ask my wife how she gets everything done around house. This lady is a house wife too. Now tell me why this woman cannot finish all this and is tired all the time, because, her heart and soul is not into it.
If one does something with interest , love and care it gets done quickly. If one is grouchy and whiny then same thing will take forever to get completed.
I love my wife for all that. She knows I can make good meals and I am good at BBQ but she never asked me , I do it whenever I feel like and volunteer to do that often.
So it is all in attitude, if you are doing it for your spouse because your spouse deserve your love and care then same chore you are doing becomes fun. If you are doing it as a favor then same chore will seem a cumbersome burden to you.
You will say what if the husband does not appreciate your love and care ? Yes some don't and they take it all granted, you need to work on them to make them realize your importance and the importance of what you do for them . Be creative about it. Whining will not get you anywhere it will add to negativity and hatred instead of positive realization.
Women are like....newborn babies. They're cute at first, but you get tired of listening to their crap.
same goes for men, only you get tired of cleaning their crap.
Re: is having a man like having a child to take care of
being home and doing all house chores also demands a lot of work and unpaid at that except when the happiness is for seeing everyone comfortable. but the family members should not get so comfortable as to expect all work done for them.
it is nice that all people who live together, especially wife and husband should help each other in distributing labor around having a home, caring for and raising a family.
same goes for men, only you get tired of cleaning their crap.
Except men rarely ask for their crap to be cleaned. Now try not listening to a womans crap :)
Re: is having a man like having a child to take care of
stop ****ing generalizing and ONLY be concerned with the MEN in your lives.
Re: is having a man like having a child to take care of
This thread is plain silly - i agree with Mirch's post 100%.
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I completely disagree!
Except men rarely ask for their crap to be cleaned. Now try not listening to a womans crap :)
haha...truth hurts.
ahem ahem…yes I’m back after the busy long weekend and a lil shocked after reading the posts…lol…Ah man and I thought it was going all smooth hehe…and someone actually opened another thread related to this one sarcastically:biggthumb(havent had the time to read it yet though)…Well some responses were very interesting I have to admit. Yet some were very emotional. Anyways this was just a lil survey because of what I had been hearing as I haven’t experienced doing anything for my fiance yet well maybe cooking when he comes over sometimes…But I would have to agree that when its all being done with love then there is no you or me…it becomes “us.” and MAN some poeple get so emotional here 
I didn’t know if I asked a question people would think that was my belief or my way of thinking?? anyhooo thanx everyone
^ well now u know what type of nut-cases there r on gs...i had 2 deal with them 2 when i 1st came..some of u here on gs need some serious help.
^ well now u know what type of nut-cases there r on gs...i had 2 deal with them 2 when i 1st came..some of u here on gs need some serious help.
sigh at least someone is backing me up here lol or else I had smoke coming out of my ears after reading some posts:(
Re: is having a man like having a child to take care of
Why do some women tend to think that housework is equivalent to going to a war or something? It's part of our daily lives, whether you do it for yourself or for your husband, what's the big deal? I think the husband has more pressure than a housewife taking care of the house and kids because he has to provide everything for them. He is the one working his ass off, waking up early and coming home late, just so he can give provide his family with a good life. Not to mention, imagine the pressure on him to do well and be successful otherwise god forbid, he might lose his job or something. A man can't even say okay I have kids now, I should relax, stay home and take care of them while a wife always has that option. I used to think the same way that why can't my husband help me and all this until I started my career and realized how much pressure there is, how tired and exhaused one feels after an entire day of work.
I think the husbands deserve all the pampering they can get from the wives. Yes, when he can, he definitely should help his wife out, after all Prophet Muhammad SAW has said that helping your wife with chores around the house is just like giving charity.. lots of ajar.
Why do some women tend to think that housework is equivalent to going to a war or something? It's part of our daily lives, whether you do it for yourself or for your husband, what's the big deal? I think the husband has more pressure than a housewife taking care of the house and kids because he has to provide everything for them. He is the one working his ass off, waking up early and coming home late, just so he can give provide his family with a good life. Not to mention, imagine the pressure on him to do well and be successful otherwise god forbid, he might lose his job or something. A man can't even say okay I have kids now, I should relax, stay home and take care of them while a wife always has that option. I used to think the same way that why can't my husband help me and all this until I started my career and realized how much pressure there is, how tired and exhaused one feels after an entire day of work.
I think the husbands deserve all the pampering they can get from the wives. Yes, when he can, he definitely should help his wife out, after all Prophet Muhammad SAW has said that helping your wife with chores around the house is just like giving charity.. lots of ajar.
Mash'Allah such beautiful words. :)
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shay your reply is really awesome. mA
so in pinks way....go and do doo rakat nafal :D