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Some people are never satisfied/happy, no matter how blessed they are or how many of their wishes come true. They'll always find something that's missing in their life. I think some people actually like being miserable. You know the glass half empty types?
I know what you are saying but even they want to be happy its just what they do (and keep on doing) that keeps them in misery.
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I know what you are saying but even they want to be happy its just what they do (and keep on doing) that keeps them in misery.
hmm I don't think so. Even if they did things differently, they'd still be miserable. With them, it's always "aisa ho jaata tu kaisa hota", but wait a second, "shayad aisa hota tab bhi what is the guarantee it would have been perfect". With every road they take, they always find something wrong to be unhappy about.
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^ Lets agree to disagree and be happy :)
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Some are happy whatever the situation. Some are unhappy no matter what. Then there are some who only show happiness and keep the sadness bottled up. We call them nutcases.
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I've come across this many times...that happiness is a choice.
Is it?
Can life events or circumstances take away your spirit or would that be considered the true test?
it IS a choice for people with dough that have not YET seen a bigger misfortune in life
i think this statement is certainly correct for these ultra competitive times, when even kids and teenagers are able to invent troubles and create reasons to be unhappy ...
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it IS a choice for people with dough that have not YET seen a bigger misfortune in life
i think this statement is certainly correct for these ultra competitive times, when even kids and teenagers are able to invent troubles and create reasons to be unhappy ...
I don't think dough has everything to do with it.
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It is true. Happiness is a choice. I look at my MIL and she totally exemplifies this statement. She is nearly 65 and still does most of the cooking, cleaning, lawn mowing, shovelling snow and on top of all that she takes care of her 95 year old TYPICAL slave driving MIL (this includes cleaning her clothes when she soils them etc.). My FIL does absolutely NOTHING all day. He sleeps and watches t.v. all day and if he so much as asks for anything my MIL is at his service in 2.2 seconds! I get so annoyed seeing this go on day to day but although she sometimes complains to me here and there, she continues to do what she does and remains a very happy and content person. If I was in her position, I'd have shot myself by now. This is the difference between me and her. She can be happy even in the worst of circumstances. I admire that about her very much.
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some ppl can never say or show their sadness
they keep smiling whatever may turn out
so they choose happiness
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I've come across this many times...that happiness is a choice.
Is it?
Can life events or circumstances take away your spirit or would that be considered the true test?
If happiness were a choice, why does depression exist? One wouldn't choose to be depressed.
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If happiness were a choice, why does depression exist? One wouldn't choose to be depressed.
If you choose to stay happy no matter what, you wouldn't get depressed. Depression is not born overnight and neither is happiness. Both are a choice we make. I have seen people who have nothing be happy and people who have everything be depressed. Of course, I am not speaking of depression that is caused by low levels of seratonin or something like that.
It is not our circumstances that make us happy or sad, it is how we "choose" to react to them. If you had nothing to eat, you wouldn't waste your time staying in bed thinking about how you have nothing to eat. You would get up and get something to eat. Apply that to other areas of your life. The truth is many things happen because we allow them then we allow what happens to us to consume us. We hold on to things we cannot control yet we do not dare change the things we DO have control over. Then we blame others and get depressed.
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If you choose to stay happy no matter what, you wouldn't get depressed. Depression is not born overnight and neither is happiness. Both are a choice we make. I have seen people who have nothing be happy and people who have everything be depressed. Of course, I am not speaking of depression that is caused by low levels of seratonin or something like that.
It is not our circumstances that make us happy or sad, it is how we "choose" to react to them. If you had nothing to eat, you wouldn't waste your time staying in bed thinking about how you have nothing to eat. You would get up and get something to eat. Apply that to other areas of your life. The truth is many things happen because we allow them then we allow what happens to us to consume us. We hold on to things we cannot control yet we do not dare change the things we DO have control over. Then we blame others and get depressed.
From a personal perspective I believe depression is not a choice nor is it about not being able to control aspects of your life which in turn leads to depression. And I disagree, you can just wake up one day and all of a sudden feel like something just smacked you in the face, and that your life has no meaning even though everything you've done up until now has been positive. Of course some people get depressed due to constant failures in life but I wouldn't say it was based on that for most. It's easy for people who have never been through it to say "oh it's cause you keep hanging onto the past or current failures" but the truth is, it's not that and they'll never understand. (Not you, just in general and i'm not saying you don't know what depression is cause you've never been through it, you might well have but you have your perception and I have mine).
I agree your circumstances make you happy or "sad" but being sad doesn't mean you're depressed. I believe there to be a distinct difference between someone being sad and depression.
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From a personal perspective I believe depression is not a choice nor is it about not being able to control aspects of your life which in turn leads to depression. And I disagree, you can just wake up one day and all of a sudden feel like something just smacked you in the face, and that your life has no meaning even though everything you've done up until now has been positive. Of course some people get depressed due to constant failures in life but I wouldn't say it was based on that for most. It's easy for people who have never been through it to say "oh it's cause you keep hanging onto the past or current failures" but the truth is, it's not that and they'll never understand. (Not you, just in general and i'm not saying you don't know what depression is cause you've never been through it, you might well have but you have your perception and I have mine).
I agree your circumstances make you happy or "sad" but being sad doesn't mean you're depressed. I believe there to be a distinct difference between someone being sad and depression.
Like I said, I wasn't talking about depression that is caused by chemical imbalance. Most depression cases are not caused by chemical imbalance or mental disorders. A lot of people are now depressed because they have either too many unmet expectations or they are bored of life. I know very well what depression is. I don't just know it, I live it from time to time. Our pill popping nation thinks everything can be cured with drugs. No, not really. We are brought up with a self of entitlement and so many expectations of what life is supposed to be. When we don't get it, we are destined to get depressed. Years of conditioning can also cause major issues. If stress can cause heart attacks and angina, why can't our thought process be blamed for depression and other psychological problems?
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Like I said, I wasn't talking about depression that is caused by chemical imbalance. Most depression cases are not caused by chemical imbalance or mental disorders. A lot of people are now depressed because they have either too many unmet expectations or they are bored of life. I know very well what depression is. I don't just know it, I live it from time to time. Our pill popping nation thinks everything can be cured with drugs. No, not really. We are brought up with a self of entitlement and so many expectations of what life is supposed to be. When we don't get it, we are destined to get depressed. Years of conditioning can also cause major issues. If stress can cause heart attacks and angina, why can't our thought process be blamed for depression and other psychological problems?
I agree with some of what you're saying, and disagree on many other points. I don't wanna discuss depression indepth right now (well not so openly) so i'm gonna drop it and move on..
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May be their circumcision went wrong? 
Wait, that was slip of tongue , I wanted to say may their circumstances are not right.