In most of the weddings, in-laws are gifted some jewellery in gold like a jewellery set for the mother, rings for the sisters, watch or ring for the father or any thing of the sort.It is given as a gift like salami is given to the couple. **
I am just wondering is this gifting considered part of jahaiz? and when families say NO to jahaiz is it only to the furniture, appliances, crockery stuff or gifting gold to in-laws is part & parcel of it as well?**
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
Jahaiz by nature is something that people use to show off who they are OR who they're marrying into.
Gifts to inlaws are nice gestures to show appreciation of a sort. I dont think its part of jahaiz.
As long as you're not making a show out of it and doing it for the sake of others, its fine.
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
Jahaiz by nature is something that people use to show off who they are OR who they're marrying into.
Gifts to inlaws are nice gestures to show appreciation of a sort. I dont think its part of jahaiz.
As long as you're not making a show out of it and doing it for the sake of others, its fine.
My family will be giving it privately on a visit to their home before the wedding without showing off. Since they have strictly said no to jahaiz we are confused whether gifts of gold are part of it or not.
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
My family will be giving it privately on a visit to their home before the wedding without showing off. Since they have strictly said no to jahaiz we are confused whether gifts of gold are part of it or not.
No jahaiz is what your parents will be giving for you and your comfort. Gifts for inlaws are different though they might refuse to take them too if they feel its a pressure on your parents.
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
Gifts for inlaws are just gifts. They are not party of your Jaheiz.
Jaheiz could be anything which your parents give you on your wedding... it depends what do you like to take or not.
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
Just don't have your parents gift it at the shaadi hall while pausing for the cameras.
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
I agree with all the others. If you are gifting this to them at a private family gathering , where it is only your family and the boy's and if they haven't imposed this on you and it is a good will gesture from your parents to your in laws and if your parents can totally afford it, I do not think it might be considered it as jahaiz. It's more an act of showing how happy our are with this union and how delighted you are to welcome this new family as your own.
(Is jahaiz the same as dowry ???? I am a bit confused.)
I think it is good manners and proper etiquette for families about to be joined together in marriage to exchange gifts. Its like how we exchange gifts at festivals/birthdays or any other happy occasion. So as long as its not obligated on either sets of parents and its not made out to be a tamasha in front of everyone.
If I were to have a daughter/son getting married, I would shower my child with gifts, make sure to gifts to the inlaws ( not the extended family) to my damad/bahu etc coz I would be sooo overjoyed.
I would never do it if the other party insisted I give them so and so gifts to keep their izzat in society .
Alos what you are about to gift here is more intimate than the usual jahaiz items like crockery , furniture etc, to which they have said no to. I do not think they would this they might insist on you not giving it to them as a courtesy.
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
Its a jahaiz if its given out of fear or in-laws or 'dunya waloon'. Its a gift if it was given out of pure purpose of sharing happiness....
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
Its a jahaiz if its given out of fear or in-laws or 'dunya waloon'. Its a gift if it was given out of pure purpose of sharing happiness....
LOL, Mine asked for the "gifts" back at the end of my marriage, incl my watch and ring.
I was going to return them without them asking anyway.
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
Its a jahaiz if its given out of fear or in-laws or 'dunya waloon'. Its a gift if it was given out of pure purpose of sharing happiness....
What the wise one said (well he is wise at times :p )
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
(Is jahaiz the same as dowry ???? I am a bit confused.)
yup.
Re: Is gifting GOLD to in-laws JAHAIZ as well?
Its a jahaiz if its given out of fear or in-laws or 'dunya waloon'. Its a gift if it was given out of pure purpose of sharing happiness....
That's exactly the point! If in-laws have said no jahaiz and you gift gold to the family privately in one of the visits to their house, would they take it as a gift or jahaiz? I mean we dont want to offend them but want to give the gifts as well.