Re: Is flirting cheating?
sorry buddy, but it was directed at monogamous hetero couples.
homosexuality and decency are two words that don't belong in the same sentence together to begin with.
Re: Is flirting cheating?
Pre-meditation leading to an illicit act is worse than off-the-cuff illicit action
Physical interaction has greater impact to society than contemplating the act
Dwelling on illicit sexual desire harms the soul
Physically adjusting ones behaviour with the intent to draw sexual attention (i.e. flirting) is damaging to society, since it is imposed on society, and is a type of language used to encourage illicit action.
If this behaviour is coupled with a contemplation of the act then it is worse than if there was just the act alone.
Flirting is hence more than just 'dreaming about sex' it is an act which is encouraging others to dream about sex. To flirt with a person who is not ones spouse is equivalent to encouraging others to desire adultery.
Some people will say flirting is not about sex but rather about ego. It is done either or as well as to boost the ego of the flirting recipient, which should engender a response in kind or some sort of approval of the attention which leads to the boosting of ones own ego as a result. That they give themselves and others the sense of worth which could be meant sexually, romantically or in other ways that something is being praised about them.
This takes it down to the lowest denominator which is, if flirting is about praising another then it is also about showing ones own willingness to be a slave to the other in that particular facet which is being exploited. It is an unveilling of ones inner self on public display.
Even though we are not held accountable for our thoughts we are held accountable for our actions in judicial systems and in religious systems we hold that our bad thoughts coupled with their actions are what are taken to account. If it can be determined that prolonging or dwelling on bad thoughts can bring about the impetus to one day act on them then it is considered prudent to not only hold oneself back from bad acts, but also to hold oneself from harbouring bad thoughts.
From protecting our minds we safeguard premeditated evil acts, taking it one step further by protecting our exposure to evil around us, then we prevent the thoughts from entering, which prevents any chance of dwelling on the thoughts which will safeguard against the acts. Avoiding the chance of sin is considered far more virtuous than allowing oneself to be amongst sin yet not doing it.
Rationale will tell us that the resistance is harder and hence should be greater in virtue than not being tested. However, the caveat to this is true only if we try our best to avoid fitnah (tribulation). Only resigning to resistance to sin when we have tried our best to avoid being submerged in it. This again has a caveat which is to remain actively working in society in order to promote good. If we break away from society to protect ourselves from harm, then we are losing out on the potential to cause good through pious conduct. We must not forsake the chance to do good to protect ourselves and we must not throw ourselves into tests where we might fall and hurt ourselves.
We should take care where we tread.
Re: Is flirting cheating?
sorry buddy, but it was directed at monogamous hetero couples.
homosexuality and decency are two words that don't belong in the same sentence together to begin with.
i'm guessing you don't know any openly homosexual people. most of them are just as decent, if not more, than your average heterosexual couple, just fitter, better groomed, and more tolerant of minorities like yourself. besides, swingers are heterosexual.
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^ Thanks for the clarification queer ...
Polish the body ... filth up the heart and soul ... Yeah I get it.
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lol@filth up heart and soul. why are you religious sorts so pent upon hatred and lies? what have homosexuals done to you?
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i'm guessing you don't know any openly homosexual people. most of them are just as decent, if not more, than your average heterosexual couple, just fitter, better groomed, and more tolerant of minorities like yourself. besides, swingers are heterosexual.
good to know that minorities like yourself are more tolerant than minorities like myself. also it's good to know that minorities like yourself are fitter, better groomed and i guess smarter than those minorities like myself. it's all good, it is, really, dung-beetle jee. relax.
To my knowledge a swinger means to be promiscuous by engaging in group sex or swapping sexual partners, mr swinger. and it was your nickname and few other posts that gave me a hint you might be gay. aren't you? no? ok, i take it back.
phew.
finally, my personal view is more traditional on this particular issue. by my standards gays and swingers are not decent people, while by yours they are.
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hun your views are just fine as long as you stay in the kitchen and don't ruin dinner. kisses now.
Re: Is flirting cheating?
i'm guessing you don't know any openly homosexual people. most of them are just as decent, if not more, than your average heterosexual couple, just fitter, better groomed, and more tolerant of minorities like yourself. besides, swingers are heterosexual.
lol@filth up heart and soul. what have homosexuals done to you?
don't know about some homosexuals not being swingers, i'm sure there are a couple like that. I totally agree with you. stop hating homosexuals, they're leading their lives without harming anybody
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^ Thanks for the clarification queer ...
Polish the body ... filth up the heart and soul ... Yeah I get it.
oooo that's a catchy one! but still illogical ; )
and how does your lecture up there hold any weight? it's an accumulation of your assumptions, opinions, and experiences, not necessarily true.
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hun your views are just fine as long as you stay in the kitchen and don't ruin dinner. kisses now.
im not into gays, mr swinger.
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lucky gays...
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and swingers.
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oooo that's a catchy one! but still illogical ; )
and how does your lecture up there hold any weight? it's an accumulation of your assumptions, opinions, and experiences, not necessarily true.
Peace philosophy
Ok regarding the catchy but illogical statement ... I need to clarify, for this discussion that I do not hate gays, rather I despise the act that is illicit much in the same way I despise extramarital sex of any kind. If I speak out against fornicators it does not mean that I hate the fornicators does it? It simply means that I speak out against the act. My "catchy statement" is an observation I have made through my interactions with the homosexually inclined, having worked in the fashion industry for a number of years. Yes, they do seem outwardly clean, but my argument states that this behaviour is not a result of the sense of morality, rather it is their focus on "skin" and "meat" all things physical that is the root of this behaviour to clean themselves. They do this whilst holding immoral desires - which poetically translates to filthy hearts and souls.
Now you ask me how my lecture holds any weight. If it is an honest accumulation of my experiences, opinions and assumptions then at least it is true for me, unless that is I am betraying my own experiences. I have put the words out there for people to agree with or disagree with. If they disagree then to do so by providing context and similar argumentation.
Most of the material is not my own anyway, it is a result of the knoweldge of other people mostly scholars, I have merely presented it in a way suitable to the thread topic. If you have anything other than dispute or protest then bring your opinions, and assumptions and experiences here, for sure I will look upon them with greater weight than you have given mine.
Re: Is flirting cheating?
I second the call for tolerance, Nisha.
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Flirting is Cheating if you are in a supposedly commited relationship !
Re: Is flirting cheating?
KILL THEM FAGGOTS!
Psyah, I expect better from you man. Nobody is perfect, but having studied religion you should know better than hating people for their sexual orientation. Whatever they do in their own private time/space is a matter between them and their creator, as far as I know we have not been given the monumental responsibility of judging what is in people's hearts and souls. Leave the almighty's job to him, he is better at it. A filthy homosexual could be a better human being than you and me, for something he might have done for a fellow human being.
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KILL THEM FAGGOTS!
Psyah, I expect better from you man. Nobody is perfect, but having studied religion you should know better than hating people for their sexual orientation. Whatever they do in their own private time/space is a matter between them and their creator, as far as I know we have not been given the monumental responsibility of judging what is in people's hearts and souls. Leave the almighty's job to him, he is better at it. A filthy homosexual could be a better human being than you and me, for something he might have done for a fellow human being.
He never said he hates gays.
Please read his above post. Thanks