New development in this case is that the guy told his wife that he is not happy with her etc etc. The wife said she will eat Zehar herself and give it to his son too if he even thought about 2nd marriage.
Just thinking, as per Sharia, 1st wife permission is not compulsory if man has valid reason for 2nd marriage. In this case, if 1st wife is threatening him like what i said above, is it not wrong of her? Does it mean that she is not allowing him to use his right? What should the guy do?
Basically it's not the wife fault , there must be some reason behind all that ,marriages r settled in heaven , it's the duty of both partners to respect the feelings of each other. hubby has complained about the wife . he has to inform what he is doing for his wife.he has to start justice from his neck.
^ pata nahin if she loves her. currently they both are living in different countries. When she comes to visit, like when kids have vacation, she hardly stays with him at their home, but stays and roam around with her sisters, brothers and other relatives. She stays with them over nights, along with kids. This doesnt seem to be love with husband. he would argue on this habit of her before, but then left doing that as it would create more tension at home. Recently when she was on visit, he told her on one of the weekends, lets go to XXXX city. she refused and said she has planned with her sister & family already to go to same XXXX city. They both went to that city on that weekend, but he was with his friends and she was with her sister.
When they were living together in same country, same home obviously, she had relatives there as well and all of her family would come to their home at odd times, like mid night, without pre-informing them and stay up till morning, or stay over night, which he would not like. Also they would use the things at their home so cruely (if thats the right word) like open up the fridge and leave the door open, or turn on the tv in high volume and would not sense that someone might be sleeping and getting disturbed etc etc. So he told his wife clearly that he highly dislikes her family and relatives visiting them so often and then staying with them for as long as they want. She told this to her family and they kind of stopped doing that. But then she started visiting them and staying with relatives over nights.
He says, if he asks her to go out with him for something, she will make 100 excuses, like sir mein dard hai, i am tired etc. But if any of her sis or mother calls her at mid of night, she ll be ready to fly to another country for them.
He likes traveling, like going to new places on short vacation etc. He tried to do that with her in the begining, but then she would not leave the hotel room and say that she doesnt want to go out. She doesnt feel liking doing this, doing that. So it would be like they are on vacation in a different country just for name sake. she wont come out with him to see places.
Also she is quite spend thrift. She goes to market and keep filling up the trolley with all unnecessary items. Unnecessary coz he says he never saw her using those things. they just eat dust once they are brought to home. like recently she bought a really expensive anti aging cream, and she didnt even take it with her while going back to UK. Not that she forgot, but she thought it was not good. he says he is using that cream now lol.
I see there is no affection in this relationship. She needs him, for obviously financial support & for name sake she is married and have husband. As told you earlier, this is her 2nd marriage, and one kid from each marriage. she is almost 40 now and the guy is in early 30s. so it would be hard for her to get married again to someone.
AND that is why I repeat again and again and again and one more time how important it is for women to be educated and be in a position of financial independence. WHy doesn't our society understand that. Why must anyone settle to live with each other if they can't stand each other when they can, yes they can find another life partner. Oh so she's 30+ and has a couple kids, so what. This husband can't stand her, how must that make her feel? And what torment for him to see someone he doesn't like day in and out and come back to a home where he doesn't feel like hugging his wife.