I just want to give your view on this. Is getting a divorce a taboo with Pakistanis? I mean what if you live a very unhappy life, then what? Do you just go on with this marriage that will never work and do you get a divorce. Its just that once I met this pakistani guy and he said that he has been married for some years now and that he doesnt like his wife, he cant stand her, and that they have been just living together, and he said that she feels the same way, but they can not get a divorce because of there Parents. Man, I think thats sad right there. I know in the eyes of Allah (swt) Divorce is the saddest things, and one should try to work things right, but at times these things happen and well you can not work them.
So, may I have your views on this people.
Thank you
There may be many reasons ppl don't get divorced... but in my view the divorce rate is steadily rising in Pakistan, as infact in almost all cultures of the world.
Though it is still considered a very unwanted action, still more and more people are considering it and doing it. I have probably heard of more divorce cases in the last 2-3 years, than ever before.
But make no mistake. Divorce is, and will remain, the most abhorent of all permissible acts in Islam. It is permissible, nevertheless.
Bluebell, it could be a taboo. My sister filed for a divorce after two years of marriage since she couldn’t get along with her husband. Sometimes arrange marriages backfire in a terrible way. My sister came out of that tragedy mainly because of her skills as a surgeon. She has always been independent ever since she graduated from the med school and- with our support- was able to take care of herself and my little niece.
There’s a happy continuation to it though
Yes u can say that it is a taboo. specially since it is the worst thing in Allah's view. and plus when you take decisions like this you don't just think about yourself you also think of the consequences of the divorce, the effect it will have on the families, children and the couple. and no doubt you wil find that in most cases divorce was easily avoidable. but either of the individual was not willing to compromise, even a little bit for the other.
Pyaar Bhi Zindagi Ki Tarah Hota Hay.
Hur Mor Asan Nahin Hota, Hur Mor Pay Khushi Nahin Milti;
Pur Jub Hum Zindagi Ka Saath Nahin Chortay To Pyaar Ka Saath Kyon Chorayn
this is exactly what I don’t understand; we these ‘divorce’ threads (2 of them) are not taboo at all by the opinions stated here then why in this forum??
I agree with all you guys. And Abdullah Alhamdullah that your sister is now happy, Allah (swt)will always bring happness to everyone, its just that some people dont have patience.
Perhaps it also depends on the ethnic culture of the married couple?
In my family and our social circle anyway, divorce isn't really taboo. In fact, the general attitude seems to be that no stigma is attached to either party in the divorce - the blame gets placed on the parents for making a bad match for their kids.