Are we culturally mature enough to handle courtship kind of a relationship before getting married ?
In our culture once a girl and a boy , men and women start interacting for the sole purpose of checking each other out ,now they become each others property. If later on, one rejects the other due to some reason it becomes " izzat da sawal".
Rejection is not accepted lightly in our culture either way. Women become suicidal or depressed and men become bent to harm the girl who rejected them.
In our culture even in case of rishta manging process in some situations if a rishta is rejected by parents of a girl or a boy it results in very devastating consequences for the party which rejected the rishta. Old friendships get broken, even siblings become each others enemy if a brother or sister rejects the rishta of a niece or nephew for their son or daughter.
Your thoughts , please.
Re: Is courtship suited to our culture ?
firstly courtship is not allowed in islam , and keeping maturity factor aside our culture doesn't approve it too ........reason ??
b/c most of the people in our culture still believe in living in a joint family system , u know parents + kids + grandkids togather , how would someone do courtship like that ??
it's particularly common in west as right from teenage people start to live independently on their own + there's no such interferance from their particular family hence it's easier for them , also another plus for them is the acceptability factor in their society