Re: Is being quiet and shy a humiliating trait
There’s nothing wrong with quiet or shy people at all, so yes people will like you. However, the fact that you can’t hold conversations is a point that should be worked on. I have been in your position and used to be incredibly shy and reserved almost to the point where I could not talk to anyone except for a few friends and immediate family. However, over the years this is overcome naturally as the person grows wiser and more worldly wise. My reserved-ness was down to a few (personal) issues, which I identified and then worked towards overcoming them. Maybe you should do the same? Identify any personal reasons (which if there are any) and work towards overcoming them. Are you shy and reserved because your scared about what people will think of you? One word of advice, F*** them. Who cares what people think, only do things that you want and enjoy yourself. That’s what I did. And in relation to your in laws, well they are your in laws because they like you (they chose you didn’t they?) so don’t worry about that. Id say that if your a guy especially (sorry cant tell from your name) then you should be more confident and outgoing. However if you feel that you absolutely cannot change yourself, then just pretend in front of other people that your are outgoing and confident. In time you will get used to it and your shyness will be a thing of the past. Hope this helps.
Thanks for the advice. I have always been shy even to the point that I don’t even have lengthy conversations with family members. Just what’s necessary to get by. And yes I am very afraid of what people will think about me and also afraid of doing and saying the wrong things.