irritated....need advise

hey guppies…to start with i am getting a bit irritated due to certain issues and i am so confused about how to be calm and deal with the issues…as most of you knw i have an outlet and am starting interiors aswell now so have a very busy day also i have a baby boy who i look after and a hubby aswell and hav to give him time aswell..now the prb is that my iin laws are mashallah very sweet but its hard to believe that my own family is getting on my nerves…i have dese 2 aunts and all the do is call me on n off just to interview me about whts going on wht did u wear at bla bla function hows hubby work n so many silly things…and da weird part is that the maid i have hired has a sister working at one of the aunts place and my aunts hav all the info about my daily routine my god i hate dis…nowadays my mum and the 2 aunts are here at my place for a few days and everyday i end up crying and fiting wid hubby:( coz the things they say and do i just feel weird…and i hav noticed every tyme these 2 have come i hav ended up fighting wid hubby and the whole house being disturbed…i cant be rude to dem coz they are very dear to my mum but its just like i feel they say things coz maybe they wana disturb me…i mean my house was a peace ful place but its like i just dun feel like sitting in the living room i wana like go from this place:( i dun knw wht has happened to me…soon im going for a holiday but wid so much on my mind i said to hubby go if u want i dun wana go wid u which is rude…i dont knw whts wrong wid me guys…advise me please.

Re: irritated....need advise

Hey Mehroze from what you have said your husband sounds like a good guy please don't treat him like a punching bag because trust me when i say this, when hes having a hard time with his stuff hes gonna do the same (not to the same extent but nevertheless) and then you are going to have even more issues. Why don't you just talk to your mom and tell her whats going on and ask her to talk to these aunts or just talk to them yourself. Cuz mehroze dear no matter how dear these ppl are to you they shouldn't be more dear then your own husband.

Re: irritated....need advise

talk to u mother n let her know about ur situation that you cant keep up with these two aunts, since they are fitnaz

Re: irritated....need advise

if they call you, then politely give minimal answers and then say you have to go as you are busy and have an appointment, or baby needs you or you have another call etc.

and when they come over be polite, and sit with them yes, but cut the visit short, your a busy person with your outlet, and hubby and baby, you have errands to run etc.

about your maid, you need to give her a talking to, that i pay you to work, not to share my life with other people or some thing along those lines,

you need to keep calm with your husband, he is your support. and you need to talk to your mom and explain how upset you are getting and how you need her support.

yea guys i knw i shudnt do dis wid hubby...but dese ladies are just irritating me so much i hav tried talking to mum about dem but i duno why she always in their favour.

U don't have enough drama in your life so ur getting upset over the maid?