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I think you're going overboard with the 'psychological' impact on this guy. At worst, he watches porn, big deal. If I recall correctly, your earlier concerns about being with this guy were about the age difference right? Have you changed your mind about that now?
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no i still hate him....its just a logical explanation..................of my hatred :p
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I don't understand why you're going through with this then.
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cause i need to give a valid explanation of my "NAHI NAHI NAHI"
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She is a woman. They defy logic. You don't like the guy. Who gives a damn what the reason is. Move on already.
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if only i could convince my parents!........i told them all this now lets see i'm waiting.......
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All you need tell them is NO. No long winded wild goose chase explanation needed.
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they asked for it so i gave it 
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This is very cruel of you, you realise you could end up damaging this guys reputation because of your false claims. You claim he's into vulgar stuff but at teh same time he is decent? You could really give him a break and have the guts to say no. Don't pussyfoot and think of all these reasons and excuses to reject the rishta, you should have told them stright up no. Now you spent some time talking to this guy. my parents treid to force me to marry some very ugly men, literally force, beatings, locked in my room and what not - but i didnt cave in.
Just say to them we talked but i feel we dont connect, and im not attracted to him, dont bring him down by saying he has a psycological problem just for you own selfish cause. Really I think you are too immature for marriage anyway.
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You seriously went ahead and told your parents this guy is psychologically messed up because he hasn't had sex?
Wow.
Btw, the same can be said of girls. :)
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Larki.....what faida or benefit are you going to have with this psychological analyzing? Is it going to have any affect on your parents?
Do you REALLY think that if you told your Ammi and Abu that "I don't want to marry him because he kept the snake locked up in the cage for too long and must have some social/personality disorder." First of all, you more than likely won't have the courage to be so open about this with your parents.....and even if you were.....they won't listen. So.....aisa karo.....if you TRULY don't want to marry this guy and want to save yourself.........then tell your parents FIRMLY that you won't marry him.....and then call up the guy and his parents and tell them that you're not interested in this rishta. IF they are respectable people, they won't pursue the matter any further. Take some stronger action in getting yourself out of this mess.
Also, you can't prove that he hasn't had sexual relations before...........and even if he had.....you would also use the lack of abstinence/celibacy against him. The point is.........this guy will never be able to win....no matter what state he is in because you are so against him. If parents are imposing the match, such a shame. But seriously, do something more productive.
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You seriously went ahead and told your parents this guy is psychologically messed up because he hasn't had sex?
Wow.
Btw, the same can be said of girls. :)
I am gonna get points for this but its worth it! Well in her case her field has been plowed, the milk man has paid a visit, the mail is in the box etc etc.
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^I second that 
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cause i need to give a valid explanation of my "NAHI NAHI NAHI"
If you don't want to marry a guy, it's pretty low to engage in tohmat-baazi just to give yourself an easy out. It's not his fault if your parents won't match you to an age-appropriate guy - that's on your parents.
Don't psycho-analyze him to find an excuse - that speaks poorly of you and not him. Show some decency and maturity, little girl!
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lol, women and their brains .. and sex ..
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I am gonna get points for this but its worth it! Well in her case her field has been plowed, the milk man has paid a visit, the mail is in the box etc etc.
Quoted for truth.
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I am gonna get points for this but its worth it! Well in her case her field has been plowed, the milk man has paid a visit, the mail is in the box etc etc.
Sadly I don't get it. :(
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I thought women did not have brains, damn I’m a women and I just had a thought about you thinking women did not have brains, wow it’s a paradox.
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Sadly I don't get it. :(
I don't get the plowing the field part, I don't know of anyone combing the pubic hair of a women. Milk part - assuming it's something to do with oral, mail box - I guess the mans part is a letter and the womens part is the mail box opening, very wierd.