Re: Intimidation
So, its funny, because this quickly turned into a "let's shoulder the responsibiliyt on women to take care of themselves PLUS take care of the global jackarsedness which is the male gender".
PCG......I don't know if this comment is directed at me or the whole discussion in general.
But let me address at least that portion that I believe I can.
I will always advocate women taking care of themselves. Always.
Nobody can take care of a person the way that person can themselves. Be it emotionally, physically or financially. I believe strongly in the ability to have independence and make no apologies for that.
Having said that, I have nowhere suggested that womankind should shoulder responsibility for taking care of what you refer to as "the global jackarsedness which is the male gender".
Perhaps we have a differing view on the male gender since I don't believe in painting everyone with the same brush just as I wouldn't want women to be seen that way.
So, let me tell you about the messages I've been getting lately. There are a number of them from very different men. Some in fact, who post here masoom se, like they are women's advocates or chivalrous men or something.
I was told just last night that if it weren't for the fact that I was so confident of my looks, I probably would not be currently being harassed by 3 men (he wouldn't say who they were) by having a picture of mine thrown around on the internet on msn by 3 guppy users.
So, I'm getting punished for being confident about myself? And where does Muzna's logic go then?
At any rate, there are a couple of other pm's I've gotten, with threats of sudhar jao, or things like that - vague threats from I don't know who, really. I don't even know who these people are or what I've done to them, but they are bullying and threatening. And I don't think its because I'm "weak" or I "deserve" it in any way. I think some people sitting behind a computer have no life and when they find a girl to bother, they focus all energy on that. They're probably failing at work or in school or something, and need something to take negative energy out on. My question is - why don't they go to the gym, or find a therapist, or hang out with their family or whatever other way they can calm themselves down if they are in a bad spot.
Why go after some girl who you don't know and try to annoy her or harass her?
Whole thing is weird.
As far as my logic on your situation goes.....I don't know enough about what you may or may not have said to these men so I can't comment. It's very difficult to discuss something when you really can't have a truly complete picture.
Besides I don't believe that being confident about one's looks is the only level of confidence required to handle manipulation. (Btw, I really must not know enough about this situation because wouldn't it go that a person who is secure about their looks wouldn't have an issue with their photo being shared? There must be more to this.)
And I still hold that while you cannot control idiots that decide to harass you, you can discourage them, especially if they are online, by not engaging with them and using whatever means you have at your disposal (i.e. blocking, putting them on ignore, removing them from MSN, launching complaints about them with the site, making a point not to share personal info/pics, etc.).
You are right about some folks that have no life to speak of or no character so they sit behind the safety of a nick and show their "mardaangi" through such acts of cowardice. However, they would be nowhere without fodder; they could not bother you if you refused to be bothered by them. Perhaps oversimplified....but it's a start.
muzna baji