This morning I was listening to the radio for weather forecast and heard people discussing how internet has taken over our lives. Couples spend more time in front of computers chatting & surfing than with each other. Some ppl say they get insecure when they see their spouse spending too much time in chat rooms. It is adversely affecting relationships…Is that true?
I see internet as your personal time and its not like watching T.V with the family so there might be some truth to people’s concerns.
I think thismay be true only for couples who arent gen.uinely interested in each other ... or are addicted to the net..
I am not sure if I understand the word addicted...If you spend a couple of hours on internet after your work hours..does that strain your relationship with your spouse?
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*Originally posted by Fayz: *
I am not sure if I understand the word addicted...If you spend a couple of hours on internet after your work hours..does that strain your relationship with your spouse?
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According to statistics ahem, a couple only gets to spend 2 hours alone time together in a day (apart from bed time). So I can see how it can adversely affect a relationship.
I'm surprised nobody has started a Net-Aholics Anonymous yet.
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*Originally posted by Fayz: *
I am not sure if I understand the word addicted...If you spend a couple of hours on internet after your work hours..does that strain your relationship with your spouse?
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Thats not a black and white answer.
If you prefer the internet over your spouse then yeh I would say your addicted.
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*Originally posted by ~MuNiYa~: *
Thats not a black and white answer.
If you prefer the internet over your spouse then yeh I would say your addicted.
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I'm sure thats quite a compromise :)
FYI honey..Im only on the net from work.. and my hubby is well taken care of... :p
Get your facts straight before you point fingers.
The first post does have a point. We all have finite time in our lives. The time we spend on the internet takes us away from other activities. No denying that. The key, obviously, is balance.
I know a few couples where the husband works and the wife works and is studying at the same time (no kids, yet). Every evening, at home both of them will be busy on their respective computers. The husband will be taking care of his investment portfolio, reading news, catching up on the email etc; and the wife will be busy in her assignments. Is either of them short-changed? I don't think so cz they made a rational decision (presumably) on what their goals in life are and are working towards these, even at the expense of spending time together.
I know another guy who regularly volunteers for the local muslim community. Most evenings are spent in the mosque helping out in social events, lectures and what not. Obviously he is also giving up his family time (to an extent) to help out the community. Then again, he made a decision that he wants to spend an 'x' amount of his time for his community. Now that his son is getting older, he is taking his son with him to the community center too.
Point is, internet is probably not the only culprit. Although chat rooms are a popular punching bad to denote whats wrong with our social values, they are what they are. Just another distraction, amongst many out there. And people just need to balance things out and prioritize where they wish to spend their time.
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*Originally posted by ~MuNiYa~: *
FYI honey..Im only on the net from work.. and my hubby is well taken care of... :p
Get your facts straight before you point fingers.
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we would need a sworn statement by yer hubby that this indeed is true.
Gracias
I know a couple where the wife spends countless hours online, to the chagrin of her husband. However, wife refuses to give up her online time because she feels her husband neglects her, and "the boys online" give her the attention she thinks she seeks.
I would say internet is not the whole problem, as others here have stated. It's other things in the relationship, but the particular addition/outlet is focused on the internet, and measures need to be taken.
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*Originally posted by Fraudz: *
we would need a sworn statement by yer hubby that this indeed is true.
Gracias
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For you my dahlllingg anything...
its in the mail :p
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*Originally posted by Munni: *
I know a couple where the wife spends countless hours online, to the chagrin of her husband. However, wife refuses to give up her online time because she feels her husband neglects her, and "the boys online" give her the attention she thinks she seeks.
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Looks kinda like a circular argument to me.
I don't know about intimacy killer but I do think it can distract people from real life issues...
I know several people..who used the internet/chatting/these types of boards to avoid problems they were having with their spouse..they went so far as to not tell people they were married (because it was personal info....) and then proceed to flirt with everyone out there..it fed their ego and helped avoid making a decision in their life.
^Very true. There are people like that out there for sure. It's sick.