I hope that you have told desi girl that you are looking at other rishtas and are meeting another girl that you are interested in. It seems from your post your more Intrested in the western girl. If the desi girl is planning your wedding then it does seem you are leading her on, what exactly are you looking for?
^^ ditto!
Stop playing with the poor girl.
Exactly, this is what I said in the very first thread he started about his so called confusion. He is leading her on & gonna ditch her as soon as he gets yes from that western girl. For the time being he is just enjoying attention from desi girl.
So I found out from the Rishta liaison that the western girl called my mother a "Paindu" after we left her house. This shocked be beyond belief. I can't believe she can be so shallow. I was really hoping that this would work. Albeit my mother isn't too much educated, she can't speak English. But she has the etiquette and ethical knowledge that would rival that of the mughals. I can't believe western girls are so shallow. She really broke my heart by saying this. When my mother found out, I saw a tear in her eyes. To be disrespect like that. My mother is the most modest and understanding woman I know. How can someone compare her to a paindu?... This is beyond forgiveness. I've decided to end things before more and more crap comes out of her side of the family. Found out another thing that my mom is a cancer survival, she's an extremely strong woman. Her family asked the liaison that to make sure if cancer doesn't run in our family...
Western Pakistani girls need to get their sheet together. This is messed up on so many levels. Why would you call the dude's mom a paindu and that too infront of your family! Infront of the Liaison!!!
So I found out from the Rishta liaison that the western girl called my mother a "Paindu" after we left her house. This shocked be beyond belief. I can't believe she can be so shallow. I was really hoping that this would work. Albeit my mother isn't too much educated, she can't speak English. But she has the etiquette and ethical knowledge that would rival that of the mughals. I can't believe western girls are so shallow. She really broke my heart by saying this. When my mother found out, I saw a tear in her eyes. To be disrespect like that. My mother is the most modest and understanding woman I know. How can someone compare her to a paindu?... This is beyond forgiveness. I've decided to end things before more and more crap comes out of her side of the family. Found out another thing that my mom is a cancer survival, she's an extremely strong woman. Her family asked the liaison that to make sure if cancer doesn't run in our family...
Western Pakistani girls need to get their sheet together. This is messed up on so many levels. Why would you call the dude's mom a paindu and that too infront of your family! Infront of the Liaison!!!
So now all Pakistani western girls are messed up? Way to go, man! Did you bother asking the girl herself at all? Are you going to just trust whatever anyone's going to tell you about someone? Since you are ending things and it affected you badly, why not make sure first there wasn't some misunderstanding? It could also be that she doesn't know or realize that "Paindu" is a derogatory term. My husband's nieces know what paindu means and they think everyone who comes the countryside is paindu. They don't know it's considered a bad word among desis. I think it would be childish of you to end things without really letting her explain what happened.
So now all Pakistani western girls are messed up? Way to go, man! Did you bother asking the girl herself at all? Are you going to just trust whatever anyone's going to tell you about someone? Since you are ending things and it affected you badly, why not make sure first there wasn't some misunderstanding? It could also be that she doesn't know or realize that "Paindu" is a derogatory term. My husband's nieces know what paindu means and they think everyone who comes the countryside is paindu. They don't know it's considered a bad word among desis. I think it would be childish of you to end things without really letting her explain what happened.
When he is playing games and being deceptive it is all kosher, okay for him to be superficial and shallow. Would make a great couple.
Since when is paindu a derogatory term? It simply means being not modern .. at least to *anyone *I have ever met in my life. so I don't understand why so much offense is being taken.
On the flip side, it's like saying "you are modern", would that be an offense to someone?
Since when is paindu a derogatory term? It simply means being not modern .. at least to *anyone *I have ever met in my life. so I don't understand why so much offense is being taken.
On the flip side, it's like saying "you are modern", would that be an offense to someone?
You are not Punjabi, are you? I didn't know either it was considered bad to call someone Paindu before I got married. My inlaws are Punjabi and I learned from them that people get offended if you flat out tell them they are paindu. It's kind of like how they turned the word "Paki" into a racial slur in Europe.
You are not Punjabi, are you? I didn't know either it was considered bad to call someone Paindu before I got married. My inlaws are Punjabi and I learned from them that people get offended if you flat out tell them they are paindu. It's kind of like how they turned the word "Paki" into a racial slur in Europe.
nope, Im not Punjabi, and I have never heard of it being a "bad" thing from Punjabis or anybody for that matter.. just more of like, saying the sky is blue, it is what it is. cuz again, it's used to refer to someone who is more homely, not modern, stuff like that..
hmm, interesting
oh, and one more thing .. paindu= fob ? cuz that's the context I've heard it as being used in, if in fact, they are two separate things
I used to call Pakistanis Paki all the time (like everyone around me).. then a friend told me 2 years ago Paki isn't what we should be called and to say the full name (Pakistani) as it's considered bezati.. so I stopped
You are not Punjabi, are you? I didn't know either it was considered bad to call someone Paindu before I got married. My inlaws are Punjabi and I learned from them that people get offended if you flat out tell them they are paindu. It's kind of like how they turned the word "Paki" into a racial slur in Europe.
My in-laws were trying to be all up in our business and trying to emotionally blackmail us and then we told them to be not such paindoos. They haven't spoken to us since.
You are not Punjabi, are you? I didn't know either it was considered bad to call someone Paindu before I got married. My inlaws are Punjabi and I learned from them that people get offended if you flat out tell them they are paindu. It's kind of like how they turned the word "Paki" into a racial slur in Europe.
I am punjabi - and no Paindu isn't a bad word.
Just a short hand way of saying perhaps ones values are more traditional.
Alternative to saying Seedha banda...
We have this Punjab sweet house in our city, the owner Asghar has his finger up his nose, picks his ears and scratches his privates and then handles ladoos bare handed. That is my definition of paindoo. Although the ladoos are delish.
We have this Punjab sweet house in our city, the owner Asghar has his finger up his nose, picks his ears and scratches his privates and then handles ladoos bare handed. That is my definition of paindoo. Although the ladoos are delish.
Lack of civility, culture, class and etiquette is the whole package. Hygiene was just an example. He is also loud and brash and on top of that he sexually exploits the foreign worker girls from India and Pakistan. He is true embodiment of paindoos like in the people involved in the internationally notorious sex scandal in Multan involving blackmail and exploitation of boys.
