Inter-sect marriages

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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This thread is the single biggest concentration of idiots that I’ve seen in 4 years on Gupshup

You guys sicken me. The kind of cheap shots that you are all taking, the way you are responding to baiting flame posts, the way you’re all just venting hate and provoking each other, is below the level expected of intelligent, educated people, and especially below the level of anyone who is any kind of Muslim!!!

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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@Pinstripe Danda

"Oh really? Now being a muslim has replaced education and basic intelligence…this thread is getting funnier.

No, being Muslim is supposed to involve showing courtesy to others. That is aside from any level of intelligence.

Abu Hurairah narrated that the messenger of Allah said :
“Let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day either speak good or keep silent, and let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day be generous to his neighbour, and let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day be generous to his guest.”
related by Bukhari and Muslim

[Reza_Pahlavi]

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@mAd_ScIeNtIsT

This thread is the single biggest concentration of idiots that I’ve seen in 4 years on Gupshup

You guys sicken me. The kind of cheap shots that you are all taking, the way you are responding to baiting flame posts, the way you’re all just venting hate and provoking each other, is below the level expected of intelligent, educated people, and especially below the level of anyone who is any kind of Muslim!!!

Thank you mAd_ScIeNtIsT you have expressed my sentiments as well. I am sorry this topic has descended into such acrimony and fasad, when I just posted a topic that could be applicable to any other religion as well.

[Lusi]

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Basically children get their father's religion what ever it be. But right now I think you guys just focus on brining him as a good and complete muslim, if your wife is uncomfortable at him going to a shia mosque, it is not a big deal. Get authentic books and disscuss all various topics as a family discussion or something actually this might even help clearing some doubts from your wife's mind too...

[taqlee]

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@Reza Pahlavi

We have/had agreed that we would let the child decide themselves, when it is mature enough, and in the meantime that they learn about both traditions. So it is not really an issue, and I was just wondering what other people in similar situations have done?

Common.

Some spouses change their sect by their own will to the partner’s one as time passes by.

Some are just carrying the title of a muslim or shia /sunni and raised the kids the same with no problem of what you know or not know and the sect is not a problem.

Some just give one-sided knowledge to the kid , depending who has the strong iman, to have the kid to be the same sect.

Some teach the kids both side of the sect and the kid is free to choose which to belonged, superficially it looks so thought the kid is pressured.

Know of a case where the, don’t-care-which-sect, parent straight forwardly said to his son in punjabi :-

“be whatever you want to be, wahabi sunni shia jevain teri marzi only when you can stand up on your own feet, matured enough, till then i am your guardian”

Just be there for your kid when he will ask you questions and don’t let him feel burden with all this sects. Give him a sense of belonging and not a drag in between of a shia/sunni family.

Cute thread.

[homer_j_simpson]

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this thread has degenerated so badly...an innocent thread turned into shia/sunni fights...and then we call ourselves muslims....go on ppl keep on figthing

shias are better..... no shias are morons and sunnis are better....no sunnis are losers and only shias in this world can be intelligent.... keep on going
just pathetic....

[sara_zzz]

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why cant the kid be both?? do all the shia / sunni things?? or is there something wrong w/ that too??

off topic but- doesnt every religion think that theres is the "right one"? so why cant people just shut up and keep beliving in whatever they are believing in now!!

[Code_Red]

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@Reza Pahlavi

Thank you mAd_ScIeNtIsT you have expressed my sentiments as well. I am sorry this topic has descended into such acrimony and fasad, when I just posted a topic that could be applicable to any other religion as well.

Apologies for thread bieng filled with filth …

But I hope you get plenty of sensible replies aswell

[Princess_Fiona]

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Why do we muslims draw a line between shia and suni muslims.. they are both muslims... we shouldnt even worry about this issue... but even then if u are worried
then i would say that due to a baby is always known by their father's name and culture then he should also be shia like his dad

[lazy_daisy]

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I prefer what RP has decided to do, chances are that in 20 years time it wont matter very much anyway.

[hiccup]

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@ghuLail

ahan…know what kuttar means, bitiya?..lets see, is yr urdu improving or yr religion…

Aap kai paas urdu ke monopoly to nahin hai aunty jee, or nahin kattar koi mushkil lavs hai. Hum urdu aik saal ke ummar sai fermatai ah rahai hain. Lagta hai Englis to aap nai abhi abhi seekhi hai.

My religion isn’t like alot of poeples. I dont shove it in your face so you presume my faith is weak…funny.

Let me know when you are perfect, them we shall go over my flaws together. In urdu.

[Reza_Pahlavi]

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@Code_Red

Apologies for thread bieng filled with filth …

But I hope you get plenty of sensible replies aswell

Thank you sir, good job.

[ghuLail]

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^ oaky bacha…aap urdu farmateen jaain…hum english saying kartai jaaingai…i didnt presume nothing bitiya, but if we begin with flaws of diction…i cud on n on n on n on…

[Reza_Pahlavi]

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@minah_pa

Since this is a question about sects in religions…

My mother was Episcopalian and my father was Catholic when they married and both were ex-communicated (throw out) for marrying the other. They made the decision, much like you did to allow us to decide. My brother and I stayed Catholic’s, my sister a Methodist.

My first husband was Sunni Muslim and I am Catholic when we had the children, we decided they should be raised as Muslim. When he passed and I married my current husband (Sunni Muslim), the children are still Muslim. Primarily because it was more important to my first husband that they be Muslim than it was to me that they be raised Catholic.

A very interesting reply. It would be good to hear more experiences from other other religions as well, like Hinduism and Sikhism. Does anyone have any examples of where people have married from amongst different sects/castes etc, and how they have raised their children?

[hiccup]

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@ghuLail

^ oaky bacha…aap urdu farmateen jaain…hum english saying kartai jaaingai…i didnt presume nothing bitiya, but if we begin with flaws of diction…i cud on n on n on n on…

You cud and I would and u cud…and i could…and you cud. in the end its a case of net legibility.

Or jee bilkul, hum urdu fermatai hain. Kuch lohg buk tai hai, or koi awai lavania mar tai hain. Its all gravy baby.

[ghuLail]

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^ just one word girl....WHTT?

[hiccup]

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@ghuLail

^ just one word girl…WHTT?

I think its spelt with an A

[ghuLail]

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^when 'great' ppl read minds.....who needs language?

[hiccup]

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@ghuLail

^when ‘great’ ppl read minds…who needs language?

You are right. I understand you best when you are silent.

[ghuLail]

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yeah....no need to verbalise the feeling....i get the instinct...