Re: Inter-National Relationships…
most people are lazy, and it takes a lot of efforts to understand someone from a different ethnic background.
In families where ties are close, like mine, inlaws are supposed to part of family gatherings, and everyone know each other:
for example i know the inlaws of all my uncle and aunts, and those of my sister, and we’re all from the same ethnic background
my parents and my sister in laws are seeing each other often in order to prepare the marriage (she’s not married yet:halo:), they get along very well cause they are exactly from same background: ethnically and socially.
But I’m gonna marry into another ethnicity, and i’m quite nervous about it, my family and his family speak different languages, live totally different lives, and have NO clue about each other traditions:D.
It will be very difficult to bridge the gap, inshallah we’ll make it, but it’s really harder to marry into another ethnic background, because people from both family can’t achieve the same level of understanding .
there is a french phrase saying that:" we choose our friends, but we don’t choose our family"…
so to avoid fights and preserve peace most people prefer to avoid having sons/daughters marrying into unknown ethnic background, cause they are afraid they won’t get along with inlaws