Certain people have a way of saying things that shake us at the core. Even when the words do not seem harsh or offensive, the impact is shattering. What we could be experiencing is the intent behind the words. When we intend to do good, we do. When we intend to do harm, it happens. What each of us must come to realize is that our intent always comes through. We cannot sugarcoat the feelings in our heart of hearts. The emotion is the energy that motivates. We cannot ignore what we really want to create. We should be honest and do it the way we feel it. What we owe to ourselves and everyone around is to examine the reasons of our true intent…
and why would i dig someones intention? if they are saying bad things to me then why should i ignore it? (unless they explain it to me or tells me that they didnt mean that way)
I know what you mean, sometimes woman (I can only speak for woman since I am one myself) say unkind things or pick fights because they want their husband to pay more attention to them, or love them.
Certain people have a way of saying things that shake us at the core. Even when the words do not seem harsh or offensive, the impact is shattering. What we could be experiencing is the intent behind the words. When we intend to do good, we do. When we intend to do harm, it happens. What each of us must come to realize is that our intent always comes through. We cannot sugarcoat the feelings in our heart of hearts. The emotion is the energy that motivates. We cannot ignore what we really want to create. We should be honest and do it the way we feel it. What we owe to ourselves and everyone around is to examine the reasons of our true intent....
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You have raised a great point.
I think a lot of the times, we are aware of our conscious intent, but not our subconscious intent. With the conscious intent, we get it, the person is a jerk and you can cut that out.
But what you said makes it sound like you are referring to situations when it doesn't even sound like they said something wrong but it reallllyyyy gets to you, especially if they seem unaware of how that affects us. If they are unaware, it could be their subconscious intent, that they are not aware of either. That is after you have clarified there being no chances of a misunderstanding.
If it is a subconscious intent issue, I would suggest you just tell the person that what they said is really difficult to swallow for you and that you do not appreciate being told that. They might try to argue your feelings, that you shouldn't feeling that way because that is not what they intended. You could let them know that you get that they didn't knowingly intend that but it still hurts you. You have the right to feel hurt and no one should dismiss that, just because their "intent" wasn't to hurt you.
I would also suggest that, if things like that with the person don't happen a lot, you forgive them for saying something they didn't knowingly say. It is difficult to figure out what's going on with our subconscious.
Intention will be fulfilled obviously if the harm is meant. And it is if you are saying something to the people you should be afraid you might hurt. One should be sensible enough to know what to say and when.