Intellectual Intercourse

Lifestyle Relationships
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hey biskut im going to remind you of this post later when you forget it again, deal?

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I agree with chaibiskut eleventy billion percent! (borrowed from @Milly)

Being able to have a conversation, whether it be a pretentious high-brow existentialist pseudo-intellectual one or a low-brow gossip fest is critical for the success of any relationship.

A couple has to be comfortable with exchanging words with one another as well as know how to enjoy comfortable silence in each other's company. What they talk about is specific to the couple, but it has to be mutually satisfying.

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So whats your point here, basically? If you want to highlight the importance of the unision of minds and souls along with the physical one (intellectual intercourse) yes, that is very important. I cannot imagine to have married to someone I cannot talk to and be listened at the old age, but hey, people do do that, dont they?

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excuse me, but what is a 'pretentious high-brow existentialist pseudo-intellectual' conversation?

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It's exactly what it sounds like :p

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lol im not going to argue this time

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I can't even fathom what a marriage would look like without stimulating conversation.

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Let me throw a wrench in the conversation -

what if the person has everything else.
Is a looker, will be able to provide well, edcucated etc etc

but there is just no chemistry in your conversation.
Is conversation that important that you don't marry him/her?

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I think mental compatibility isn't given as much importance in our marriages/marriage set ups as it should be.... it's all about the other factors

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For me yes. The meeting of minds is far more important than the meeting of body and soul.

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Each person is different, there may be some who can survive without that conversational/cerebral connection, but for others that conversation is like water on parched earth - you need it to thrive.

I had a friend who said to me that you don't need to be friends with your partner, a person has friends apart from their partner who provide you with the conversation and enjoyable company. I vigorously disagreed with her. Funny enough when she finally married, she calls her husband her soulmate, the one she can say anything to and share every thing with.

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@ Muniay's comment - depends on what one wants. IMHO at the bare minimum (if not conversation) communciation is key.

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Can you have one without the other?

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Personally, I fear loneliness in a relationship where conversation is absent.

I've seen couples who can "communicate" about their children, their home and families, paying bills, etc. But they never talk to/with each other and don't appear to enjoy talking to one another.

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sawly :( but i'm hoping a mod changes the title to 'discourse'

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^^ @ Nisha IMO, it is not necessary. A little play on words is good. It is like the difference between biskut and biscuit, a subtlety that escaped me earlier.

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If marriage is one long conversation then one thing is for sure - in this intellectual intercourse ( as you quoted ) , women can't complain for not getting enough ograsams ... with the speed they talk - it seems like that they are in a continual state of getting pleasure by their own talking :)

By the way - by this account , can we label the act of four women or more, sitting and gossiping as intellectual orgy ?

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*'pretentious high-brow existentialist pseudo-intellectual'
*
hahahh............... i think we have a few around here too :p

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What I was tring to say was - just as high portion of body is water (though we may not realize it), so is a high portion of one's marriage in the long run intellectual discourse, though as young people one may not realize it.