Insight needed on this rishta/relationship

[Paheli00]

Re: Insight needed on this rishta/relationship

@sherazade

But like you said, I do not know whether they are considering other risthas. They could be. But how will I ever know?

Although, I am not expecting an immediate yes, I am not feeling too good about continuing developing an attachment with a cloud over my head doubting whether this relationship is even going anywhere or not. As others have said,** I personally think the guy himself does not know whether it is a yes or not - which is why he isn’t giving me any clear indications of whether this is going anywhere**. Whereas yes, my family are ready for an official commitment and aren’t looking for other risthas for me yet - because we’re hoping this one will pan out.

This is a typical arranged rishta process. Guy and girl like each other BUT both parties will not move forward if the families do not agree to the marriage. It doesn’t matter how much the guy likes you. He will drop you like a hot potato if his parents say “no” for whatever reason. Right now there is absolutely 0 commitment from both sides. Both you and him are free to talk to other people as potential rishtas. He has not made any promises to you. Thus, it would be stupid for you to put yourself “on hold” for this guy.

My sincere advice is to cut off all contact with the guy for now. Let him know that you don’t want to get more attached if his parents are not ready to move forward. If he is a decent guy who is serious about marriage, he will understand this and respect it. Then wait for 2-3 weeks. If within 2-3 weeks, the guy’s family does not contact your parents at all with a official “yes”, then continue your search and start talking to other guys.