Re: Insight needed on this rishta/relationship
Thinking is not the same as knowing. The fact is that you really don’t know what discussions are going on in the guy’s family and what is preventing them from saying “yes” right now. Don’t allow your emotions to cloud your judgment.
You have spoken to this guy already for 4 months so both of you know each other well enough. The families have met. It looks like your family is willing to move forward to a official commitment. The hold-up is HIS family. For whatever reason, his parents are not ready to say “yes” at this point. My recommendation would be that you let the guy know that it’s best for both of you to stop communicating and getting attached emotionally further until his family provides a official answer. If and when his family says “yes”, you two can pick up where you left off. If they say “no”, the pain will be less if you have already stopped contact with him.
And as for being on “hold”, did the guy and you have a open discussion that both of you will not pursue other rishtas? How do you know for a fact that the guy and/or his parents are not pursuing other opportunities while you’re waiting?