I will never get it, why are ppl so cold or so insensitive to ppl they love most? Like today this guy got hurt like his finger got stuck in the door or something and his wife/gf starts cracking up!!! n even i was thinking thats gotta hurt!!! But for some WEIRD reason his wife/gf thought it was really funny 
n another thing i notice alot is boyfriends/fiance/hubbies being so nice to other girls at the cost of hurting their wife or gf..wats up with that? I mean its good to be a good person and all but whats the point when ur hurting someone u love(supposedly most)? Like guys being super nice to their xes 
n ruin their own relationships!!! Is it cuz we know they will forgive us n in the case of that lady, i honestly think she was a psycho
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C'mon, I only laughed for a minute or so......
Everyone has done this at least once. You never know another couple's story, maybe it just reminded her of something thathappened before or maybe they were just talking about something that fit in.
The other part of your post - again, you never know what a relationship is like on the inside. The nicest people to others can be a living hell to their family, I have seen it happen.
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minah_pa I know that but trust me the guy wasnt enjoying it at all!!! n if it was liek a lil something i could understand, u coudl see the guy was in pain from his face and if a stranger walking by can see it, how can ur wife not?
n the relationship thing, why though I mean if a person is generally a nice person than shouldnt they have enough sense to keep their priorities straight
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You're right. :)
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It's lack of trust that ruins relationships and unless the person really oversteps their boundaries by being very friendly, there is nothing wrong with being nice to an ex. After all, this person was once important to you and someone you cared about.
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i guess i am just a very possesive person..In my opinion, its ok to be nice to them cuz you are suppose to nice to everyone, not because you had somethign to do with them once..thats just how I think n its just I found about this girl who got married like two years ago and now shes divorced cuz slowly her husband's ex wife won him back by like making him feel sorry for her! And trust me this isnt the first time i have heard this...
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Think about it by placing yourself in that position. If someone was very possessive and jealous about you, wouldn't you feel very stifled? I know I would. Trust is very important, and trust starts with the faith in your partner that they will not do something under-handed and ghatiya like this. Then you establish boundaries that are not unreasonable and impractical. Only a weak man is drawn back by an ex, and your to be isn't like that.
You will be amazed at how unimportant things like these become and how you can joke about them later on. Don't worry, only a handful of guys are like that, not all of them.
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ohhhh no u got me wrong, i wasnt talking about him, if i was that unsure about him I wouldnt marry him..I actually have a friend going through this too :-/ and that lady just got to me!!! hes sweet enough to accept my unreasonable and stupid boundries....like i will be jealous when he talks about ravena tandon but u know errrmm its kinda hard to explain, u have to be that type of a person to understand :p
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hmmmmmm.. only logic i can think of is that what splendor already said.. trust..
there is urdu saying of GHAR KI MURGHI DAAL BARAABAR.. now i dont want to pick a fight with husbands and wives here, but THIS IS normal that once u r CLOSE to a person.. u take them for granted.. i know it sounds stupid.. but its true that once u r near a person.. "value" khonay lagti hay..
second point u brought teejay was how boyz/husbands are nicer to OTHER girls upto hurting their own.. this requires a perspective which is wide'nuff for its own topic.. in a nutshell, "male" partner in north america 90% of the cases, mentally "lives with" the second half for maximum of 4 years.. after that, its committment/kids/family/pressure/embarrasment/etc that makes them close.. (again, i'm not picking a fight with MARRIED-for-40-years desi couples uncles aunties here)..
so, having said that, MIXED with the ghar-ki-murghi example, u can see why they will 'ignore' the partner, and will be treating other girls nicely..
here's the sad/bummer thing.. they wont know/REALIZE it even after scolding.. cuz it would 'feel' normal to do that for them..
:-) sad/pathetic/harsh but true.. :(
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TJ I know what you mean, people like that are not really in a great relationship nor do they really care about one another.
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there is urdu saying of GHAR KI MURGHI DAAL BARAABAR.. now i dont want to pick a fight with husbands and wives here, but THIS IS normal that once u r CLOSE to a person.. u take them for granted.. i know it sounds stupid.. but its true that once u r near a person.. "value" khonay lagti hay..
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I always wondered what the saying meant so thanks for explaining it. :)
It's true, sometimes we just take our loved ones for granted :(
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i agree with faizy bahi
once u go beyond the limited then u start loosing the value of beoved one. that's why we should have some gap in our realtionship, doesn't matter it's wife husbadn, parents or children, we should have some gap to maintain the importanc of the in others' eyes. :)
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gap to maintan the importance.. i dun understand this... if the wife asks for some time for herself or some space for herself, husbands can come up with te weirdest logic possible for that like she doesn't care for me, she isn't happy with me.. then where do you draw a line?
I think its all about trust.. once you trust your better half your life is an easy ride otherwise its a life-time roller coaster ride with lots of fears, if's, and never ending buts!
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I don't know either. I've never done that to anybody -be it someone I love or a complete stranger. Laughing when someone's embarrassed is just too rude and doesn't leave a good impression.