**If it’s continuous, shut them down, and start distancing yourself. If they really cared about you, they will come and apologize, and if they didn’t they will think you’re making a big deal out of it and scoff at you but do you really need people like that in your life? **
Like Reha I also never used to speak up but what I have learned from my experience is that you should speak for yourself . You don’t necessarily have to be rude …there are always other ways to make your point clear.
Recently many people have asked me question as to why I am still working ! and they are like what kind of mother I am to leave my infant daughter at home just for the sake of earning money. 3 days back a guy at work started off asking me questions that why are you still working ? and started asked personal question (like financial) . I had to stop him , I was not rude to him but I said I don’t leave my baby with any stranger I leave her with my mom and she is capable of taking very good care of her and besides I want to send my daughter to good school and I don’t want to compromise on any need of hers. He himself has 3 kids and didn’t let his wife work…fine it was his decision. He chose to send his kids to an average gali mohala ka school fine it was his decision … I am not criticising him for not sending his kids to good school so he does not have any right to criticise me ! Similarly a few days back we had in our office visitors from abroad they too were very nosy about me leaving my daughter at home and working.
In Pakistan things are different they look at you like you are doing a gunnah to leave your daughter at home with someone else for the sake of working.
They don’t pay for my daughter’s needs and they don’t fill the grocery in my house so they don’t have any right to comment and if they are commenting either I ignore them or I reply them in best possible decent way.
Don’t let people tell you how to live your life when they are not in your shoes. Ignore once Ignore twice but not third time or fourth time. There is a saying that Lehaz ko Lehaz hota hai …agar app kisi ka lehaz karo gay to woh apka lehaz karey ga otherwise lehaz ek do dafa hota hai 3rd 4th time nahi. It’s better for all of us to know our boundaries & limitations.
Yea I don’t get it. Why is it bad if a women works in Pakistan? I mean, if she’s doing honest work then what does it matter? It boggles my mind really.