I hear that in unstable marriages, the couple r very insecure abt the kids. In some (most) cases the mother fears loosing her kids which often makes her stay in a bad marriage. In some cases, its the father who fears loosing the kids as in most countries the mother gets the custody of the kids in case of a divorce.
What i want to know is how many of you married people have thought abt this? Or have this fear that God forbid if this doesnt work out what happens to my kids?.
And lets say you have a normal, happy marriage do you still need to keep your partner feel secure about the kids? or is that taken as granted since the marriage is working fine n neither feels the need to think in that direction?.
yaar, i am not sure if that is true but that is true, dont you think? Allah na karey, but put urself in that position would you like to be separated from your kids?
P.S no offence to you but sometimes i think that the reason there is a high divorce ratio, because even before getting into a marriage ppl are thinking of divorce and exit startegies, why be negative in the first place.
SOWWIE for an off topic response but i needed to say that :D
^ I completely agree with your p.s. And no offence is taken cuz i was not thinking of it for myself but cuz i kinda experienced something similiar in close proximity so i was made to think on it :).
Maham I'm going to be bold and use your thread to ask a similar question to all the guppies:
What kind of a relationship do u share with ur parents? I've been blessed with the most amazing mama and abu jan, words cannot do justice to how much I love them!
I still remember how (when we had newly shifted to Ireland) my jaw dropped to the ground when I heard a girl in my class saying "I hate my mother!" .. For me, this was non-existent. How could anyone hate their mother? Coming from a country where we're made write essays on respecting our parents, it really shocked me to hear that someone could have such harsh feelings for their parents.
Now, after living here for over a decade, i've become so used to listening to kids go on and on about how much they hate their parents. One of my friends in college purposely lives away from home. Her parents house is actually very close to the college but she still lives on the campus so that she can "get a break" from her parents! I don't understand!
Do we (desi kids) ever get these types of hateful feelings for our parents or is it limited to the gora community?? (please tell me its is...!)
