You are in love. You think of him/her all the time. You trust eachother and are confident that you would not loose it come what may yet there is something that boils within you. Insecurity; would he/she abandon me someday for this and that reason?
The most close bond is as fragile at the same time. Discuss.
Interesting...
I've never been in a relationship at all, but I do have some opinions on it...
I think everyone has a bit of insecurity in them, but it just depends how much u let it run ur life and relatinoships
I think a tiny bit of insecurity may actually be helpful, in the sense that u know not to take ur partner for granted. But if its to the extent that you get jealous easily and it ends up destroying both of you then , no it's not okay
^ If you are too much in love the extents you say are harsher. Does that mean loving too much is not healthy and should be avoided?
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^ If you are too much in love the extents you say are harsher. Does that mean loving too much is not healthy and should be avoided?
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being in love and loving someone are two differnet things. To me, the phrase in love evokes images of passion, romance, infatuation, jealousy, insecurity etc. Whereas loving someone involves caring, listening, communication, etc. I think both are equally important.... I think first you must love someone ....have a deep friendship, mutual understanding etc, before you involve the "in love" aspect of relationships
To my understanding "in love" thing comes after "loving." Conclusively they are one and same thing. Such suffixes and prefixes dont change it.
If “loving” and being “in love” are hte same thing, then I think that’s the best type of relationship 
And the best types are most slippery and you feel like holding sand in your hands and fear it would slip out of your fingers. Sorry, I would like to keep redirecting you to my topic. 
honestly..ur topic is too broad to be discussed..there r thousands of types of insecurties.. narrow it down in order for us to understand what problem we r solving here.
"loving" and being "in love" r too diferent things..in my opinion :)
its part of the nature of liking someone - whether you want to call it a crush or love or whatever (can't really tell the difference, to be quite honest) - and much of it has to do with how much sense you have and how much self-control you have over your own mental demons.
And there are different types of insecurities - like the insecurity of seeing them talk to someone else - the insecurity of the possibility they might leave you - the insecurity of your partner not liking your habits, etc etc - the list goes on.
Best not to make things complicated. Parsimony only works between man and woman. :D
At one point you call it "the most strong bond" and then you call it "fragile"...maybe you're confused about it yourself. I don't think it's fragile in any way. I won't agree to that. Our bond is so strong that no matter what we do, in the end, we do know that no one is going to leave anyone...so when we have serious SERIOUS fights, we argue, we yell, we cry and then something does feel good inside that hey, he's not leaving u alright...so relax. I never felt insecure with him..infact I've never felt so secure with anyone before.
Maybe we need to be more committed in relationships. The people who aren't lose hope too soon.
^^ that's exactly what I;m looking for someoen who will know I won;t leave him no matter what and someone I knwo who woudl never leave me no matter what.
If only my folks were not in such a hurry to get me married off I knwo one guy who I;d soo get along with and maybe eventually settle down with...we have this amazing bond BUT...he's not thinkin about marriage or even a relationship..and to be honest I'm not ready for one either...this marriage word is looking pretty ugly to me these days :(
luv n care iss mostly taken forgranted ........
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luv n care iss mostly taken forgranted ........
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Thataswhat my question is. Why???
because humans by nature are arrogant and weak.
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because humans by nature are arrogant and weak.
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Arrogance that makes you loose and you know that before hand too and yet you go on?
BTW you are right.
Its normal as far as Im concerned.
We're always a tad bit insecure about the people we love because we don't want to lose them. It is not just w/the opposite sex, but even with our parents. If one parent starts showering his attention on only one child, the other children do feel left out and insecure. It is very normal.
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At one point you call it "the most strong bond" and then you call it "fragile"...maybe you're confused about it yourself. I don't think it's fragile in any way. I won't agree to that. Our bond is so strong that no matter what we do, in the end, we do know that no one is going to leave anyone...so when we have serious SERIOUS fights, we argue, we yell, we cry and then something does feel good inside that hey, he's not leaving u alright...so relax. I never felt insecure with him..infact I've never felt so secure with anyone before.
Maybe we need to be more committed in relationships. The people who aren't lose hope too soon.
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To an extent you're quite right. However, at times there are fights so serious that totally shake you up. And the fear doesn't go away for a while I guess till everything gets back to normal.
Long distance relationships add on to stress and worries (when going through a bad patch or a very bad fight).