i have several good-looking and beautiful friends, and except for two or three of em, all of em always have insecurities for the relationships they are in. they always have this “shaq” that their bf or husband will leave em.
in fact even if i put a scenario that what if he leaves then what…they start freaking out. i mean come on…chill…relax. even if someone leaves its not the end of the world. ager app ko kisi k choot janay ka itna he dur hai to u should be worrying about that k kaheen ALLAH na app ko choor jayea!
beside they are soo preoccupied with their bf-finace-husbands thoughts that they literally drowning in it. i mean there is so much more in the world to explore than just worry about one person (whom u dont even know about whether he is ur soul mate or not).
ps. i barely get to see these insecurities among average looking girls.
hmmm thinking abt this abt my husband freaksssssssssssssssssss the hell out of me, does that mean i m pretty :)
hmm but really i cant even think of losing my husband, i just love him so so much
i agree there's a lot to explore, n i agree that the world does not end at a person but everything becomes too much difficult if that someone u love, leaves u.
to borrow a cliche, that person may be just one in the world
but to someone else, they may be the world.....
I'm not sur eif ure talking about just dating or marriages as well, but when a person leaves the other, or even if the divorce is mutual, its still devastating.
I guess for some women, their lives revolve around their BFs/Husbands and nothing else..... I don't think it depends on their looks... its about being emotionally dependent on one person I guess.
people get "left" regardless of how beautiful they are. if one partner IS significantly better looking than the other, then the chance of being cheating on or walked out is less (if you're the beautiful one) but it's still there. and the kinds of people you're describing are labeled as anxiously attached individuals. they have people like this all over the world, i don't think beauty has anything to do with it. maybe it just so happens that the anxiously attached girls you know are good looking.
Often girls who are very pretty become very used to and therefore very dependent on people constantly commenting on and complimenting them on their looks. They begin to define themselves as "the pretty one." The problem with that is that your sense of self is entirely dependent on someone else. The minute an ideal if what pretty means changes, they are no longer as valuable. This may seem unreasonable, but it makes them clingy and paranoid, as they are always fishing for ways others can reassure them that they are still considered pretty (and therefore valuable).
personally i think, that an average looking girl is more insecure, coz she's always worried that her bf wagera might be cheating on her, dating some one prettier, hotter etc.. and she's always worried that he might get over her, bored of her, finds some1 better.. u knw all these fears
but yea marwah i agree...beauty has nothing to do with this.. the hollywood beauties also go through this too .. Brad and Jen etc etc ... infact the way they breeze through relationships and all.. :)
awww.. n i wud pray he wouldnt ever even think of ny1 else n iguess u r bein modest too
.. but then again..marriages are more secure, they r a binding contract.. such things dont happen here ..but yea in relationships, hookups ..insecurities are always there..these are such fickle relationships
I think its more of a perspective than anything. I do believe with what sahar02 said about pretty girls want to be assured that they are pretty and that is how they define themselves and their constant neediness to be complemented. The second thing I think is that when you are pretty you see people looking at you and hit on you a lot more and you start to see all these chances of cheating that you across often and you start to think that your partner gets all these chances too and if they tempt you then they would also tempt your partner and thats why they get even more paranoid.
I think its more of a perspective than anything. I do believe with what sahar02 said about pretty girls want to be assured that they are pretty and that is how they define themselves and their constant neediness to be complemented. The second thing I think is that when you are pretty you see people looking at you and hit on you a lot more and you start to see all these chances of cheating that you across often and you start to think that your partner gets all these chances too and if they tempt you then they would also tempt your partner and thats why they get even more paranoid.
^That makes sense. Celebrities (movie stars) are generally attractive. And they're SO USED to getting attention......especially positive attention. And as much as they might complain about the paparazzi................they DO become insecure if they stop receiving attention from the media/fans. Then they end up doing something or the other to get back into the limelight...........because even "negative attention" is better than no attention at all.
^And you'll see aging stars undergo plastic surgery to maintain their looks so that they'll continue to be praised for their looks.............that they won't be considered washed out or old...................so that they'll keep getting those roles...................SO THAT THEY"LL STILL BE NOTICED. If you're so used to something (even positive attention for looks)..............you might start expecting it and then become insecure when you don't receive it as often or when you see that you have "competition" in the form of other attractive people.
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***And of course, there are exceptions to the generalization. There ARE attractive people who get annoyed with attention and find it superficial........and are more secure with themselves...........and realize that they are MORE than just pretty faces and have substance to their personalities.
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****************At the same time................"average" looking individuals who have had to work on developing their personality (since looks were never the first thing to capture people's attention)................can ALSO feel insecure when their spouses are around good-looking people because they've dealt with such competition for most of their lives.
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********* In general..........considering the rate of divorce and infidelity these days..............it's not strange that people (attractive OR average looking) would be worried or feel insecure about straying partners.
^redvelvet ... you put everythin so nicely n concise .. :) its exactly wot i was thinking. it's generally around ..these insecurities after seeing so many broken marriages/relationships divorces these days
Pretty people know they ain't got nothing going for them besides their prettyness, so they know that the one who is into them, if he is into them just for the prettyness and not the personality, then there can very well be someone else who is even prettier than them. Either that, or that they will get old and get ugly.