its not only u, ive seen many girls doing that both in reality and online.. and i personally find it quite sad.. for me calling someone bhai is to show them respect and love.. and yeah i know people are different
as far as im concerned, in reality i cant remember calling anyone bhai accept my own brothers, whereas online the word ‘my praa’ slips out very rarely.. ofcourse all in good humour
p.s verizon even though ive come across ur posts for the first time, but i wouldnt blame the poor souls who end up calling u bhai. as in bhai " shoo get away from me"
^^ Doll ;). Just kidding. Excessive use of honey sweetie is silly. But I use it every now and then but as adjectives. Whats your point in reagrds to insecurity.
this is so silly, I, for one have never ever called any bloke "Bhai" or whatever, never, hes not my brother, so theres no need. If i dont want to be chatted up i tell him/her to fcuk off, simple, nor would i ever lie about being married or engaged or in a relationship. It's much easier being honest about these things. come to think of it, whenever iv told one of my stalkers that i didnt want him to follow me or sit outside my house anymore, and explained that i just did not like him, they were much more understanding than all the idiots i met at uni who thought, oh you must call me Bhai or unlce if i cant chat u up or date you....idiots...i dont understand why.
Personally, i think its boys (notice how i say boys and not men, as men would'nt think like that, not real men anyway) that bring about these notions of calling them "bhai" and the reason why? their insecurities that they couldn't chat up some lass so they'r going to develop a bhai behen rishta instead.
There are many reason behind why women would do that to mens poor little souls. You just need to understand women better. It's not about insecurity. Why don't you go upto them who call you bhai or uncle or whatsoever and ask them the reason for such extreme zulm. Insecurity isn't the reason behind everything women do. Indirectly, you're being insecure by complaining about them. If you weren't then you'd be okay with them calling you anything.
Indirectly, you're being insecure by complaining about them. If you weren't then you'd be okay with them calling you anything
Wanted to know the thought process. You may want to re-read my init post an open mind. Heres an excerpt I could single out a few guppans but to keep it clean lets leave specifics out and generalize it. On the same token there are a few guppans that I have a great deal of respect, but no names, same rules apply
Obviously based on your response you fit the latter part of my sentence.
In my early days at GS I remember having spoken against the need to call every other guy bhai. First of all I know only my really brothers r my brothers and no one else. Amongst cousins it’s okay to call the elder ones bhai, but when it comes to strangers, acquaintances, colleagues I myself call them by their name and if the guy is significantly elder I call him falaan sahab etc. Bhai is a very special and dear term for me and no aira ghaira will have the honor of being called ‘bhai’ by me unless I really really respect and admire him.
Someone earlier said ‘its the way we are brought up’. I can somewhat agree to that. You are supposed to be a good girl and have pious thoughts for everyone, not be attracted to guys but thats not enough, you have to make sure you display that all to appease the people around you too.
Regarding it being a case of insecurity in some cases that may be true. Some girls do jump at calling guys bhai either to get across the fact that they are very good, naik girls or simply to show that they are not interested in them and that the guys should just save the efforts of even trying. Its like taking precautionary measures…wayyyy ahead of time. Before a guy can even begin to think about a girl in a non-behn sort of way, the girl smashes him with a heavy ‘bhai’ title right in his face.
It is also a way to get rid of guys u find unattractive…call them bhai and never give them the opportunity for anything else.
My argument is that why must I call everyone bhai? Why must I establish a relationship wih him? Why can’t he just be nothing to me? Or why not just a friend, an acquaintance? Saying bhai to a random person for me is like going out of my way to prove myself to others. I don’t usually care for that.
Femme Fatale: As I mentioned in my initial post that there are women that do not run to "bhai, bhaiyya" etc. I have a great deal of respect for women that don't overly indulge in this bhai gheeri concept, it appears that you happen to be one of them (IMO which is a good sign of a confident woman).
I totally understand the respect for elders part, but that doesn't mean start calling every Aira Ghairya (every as$hole that you meet) a bhai.
Your last paragraph was the question that I had asked.
RP Read from begining, you'll know what I mean.
