Here what I do. I always look towards that hand which is downward not to upper one. I mean when I desire for something I pray nafls, keep fast and do Zikar-e-Ilahi + whatever I can do. But still there was one question (thought) in my mind which keeps bothering me that I struggled too much then why wasn’t its come true?
Then I look at myself what I acquire by the blessing of Almighty Allah comparing it with those poor needy peoples who are deprive from such godsend gifts. I realize how lucky I am and others are not. That is the one reason for getting inner peace because I always look at those who are less fortunate from me. It doesn’t mean I don’t wish for something else or stopped asking/praying. No, I still pray nafls, keep fast and do Zikar & Tasbeeh because Almighty Allah in past blessed me more than I deserve and I believe He will bless me with more if it is in best interest of me.