Both situations would be like shooting myself in the foot. We do drop in randomly on them and they LOVE it. He says we’ll only go for a few hours, but then we end up spending the whole day there. And I don’t want to be the one to complain and make us leave early. And they live in the boonies so we basically end up spending the whole day there with nothing to do.
And same with inviting my family over. I just need more me-time, not family time. He’s more of a family guy, so he’d probably enjoy having my family over multiple times and wouldn’t see any issue with it. LOL!