Ingredients of a Blessed Family

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Love

•Love is the gel that produces a rock-solid relationship among the members.
•Love needs nurturing. (expressed by words, don’t neglect touches as well)
•Pure physical attraction can not create love or maintain it for long
•Romance of ‘boy- girl-friend’ relationship most often fails in the test and ends up in changed relationship.
•Islam demands unconditional love for Allah and His messenger, and love for his sake is a tie up there
•Love between parents transmits to children.
•Love has external manifestation and that is natural but should not create public indecency.

Kindness, Care and Compassion

•Have mercy on those in the land, so that the One in Heaven will have mercy on you. (Sunan al-Tirmidhi)
•Allah is kind and He loves kindness in all affairs. (Sahih al-Bukhari and Muslim). He who is deprived of leniency is deprived of goodness.
•(Muslim) When Allah, the Exalted, wills some good towards the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them. (al-Musnad, Sahih al-Jaami)
•Allah loves kindness and rewards it in such away that He does not reward for harshness or anything else. (Sahih Muslim
•Parental indifferences and ill temper kill their childhood and may rob them of their future happiness.
Respect
•Human beings are the manifestation of divine will, with Allah’s 'spirit in each of them, and as such deserve due respect.
•We all learn from each other, even from a tiny baby. Every one has opinion on different aspects of life. Respect for opinion and the freedom of expression give rise to motivation and creativity.
•Islam teaches decency, and family is the first institution where they should learn them.
•Islam requires members of the household to seek permission when entering into another person’s room.
•Parents, of course, need to know what is happening in their children’s world, but they should do this with full honesty and without being intrusive and insensitive.

Consultation

•Allah (SWT) has commanded believers to conduct their affairs and settle their differences in consultation (al-Quran 3:159, 42:38).
•It is illuminating that Allah (SWT) discussed with His angels about His plan to create man on earth. This is mentioned in the Quran.
•Consultation is the prophetic way of life, which Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) practised in his domestic and public life.

Justice

•Justice is at the heart of Allah’s creative design.
•The creation of Heaven and Hell is because of this unfulfilled justice on earth.
•Maintaining proper balance between rights and responsibilities is also justice.
•Justice is the first test for the khalifa on in his life and in the Quran

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Jabir Narrated that the Prophet, pbuh, gave these instructions in his sermon during Farewell Pilgrimage: "Fear God regarding women; for you have taken them in marriage with the trust of God." Mishkat

Narrated Aisha, God's messenger said:
"Among the believers who show most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition, and are kindest to their families." (Tirmidhi)

Narrated Abu Huraira, God's messenger said:
"The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the best of you are those who are best to their wives." (Tirmidhi)

Aisha has related that the Holy Prophet, pbuh, would enter the house with a pleasing disposition and a smile on his lips. [Uswa-i-Hasana]

Narrated Al-Aswad: "I asked Aisha, What did the Prophet, pbuh, do at home?' She said,He used to work for his family and when he heard the call for the prayer, he would go out.”(Bukhari)

Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's Apostle, peace be upon him, said, `The woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some bent.” [Bukhari]

Narrated Abu Huraira: "The Prophet, pbuh, said, `Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbour. And I advise you to take care of women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will reamin crooked, so I urge you to take care of women. (Bukhari)

Narrated Abdullah bin Amr bin Al-As: "Allah's Apostle, pbuh, said, O Abdullah! Have I not been informed that you fast all the day and stand in prayer all night?' I said,Yes, O Allah's Apostle!' He said, `Do not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and also leave them at other times; stand up for the prayer at night and also sleep at night. Your body has a right over you and your wife has a right over you.” (Bukhari)

Narrated Ibn Umar: "The Prophet, pbuh, said, `All of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards. The ruler is a guardian and the man is a guardian of his family; the lady is a guardian who is responsible for her husband's house and his offspring; and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards.”

Men should forbear any shortcomings of women in view of the following verse of Quran:
Live with them in kindness; even if you dislike them, perhaps you dislike something in which God has place much good. Quran (4 : 19)