ingrate deceivers

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as people, at work, within relatives or blood relations, and in personal relationship, when somebody turns out to be bad and a deceiver,
what do you do with that person?

  • wish that person well and let go
  • learn from that person’s misery
  • not become ingrate yourself
  • or treat that person as that person never ever existed or came across you?
    share your thoughts on the kind of strong disappointment one feels when this kind of a person comes and goes?

best,
Dushwari

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did we not cover this already?
i dont think teh bullet points there are mutually exclusive.

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^ firstly i dont understand why does every1 here is so harsh towards sensible topics? yes, most of us might be more interested in having fun discussions and what not but it doesnt hurt to have a serious discussion either.

newayz, back 2 dushwari's question...well it really feels bad esp when some1 close to you does that. I know i dont trust or get along eaisly with any1 and every1...it takes time for me to be friendly with others but at times i just click with a person. But however that happens, once i make frnds with some1 i am totally committed and do it from heart so if i get betrayed or deceived than that really hurts me. What my reaction would be? i guess i will just go my way and never see their face again unless ofcourse they realise their mistake and are apologetic about it. But even than it depends on what their mistake was...i think i forgive but i dont forget (only when it comes 2 serious issues) so that perhaps means i cud get back with them but the equation cant be the same.

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If his intentions of deceivng were bad:

Wouldn't let him know that I know he deceived me. Would just make sure he isn't able to deceive me later. Ofcourse then he would himself come to know indirectly that I know he deceived me before.

If his intentions of deceivng were NOT bad:

I still wouldn't try to let the person know that I know he deceived me. Would just try to find out through the sources available to me, "What were his intentions of deceiving?"

If the person is someone very close to me

I would like to discuss the matter face to face to sincerely understand the reason which might have forced the person to deceive me.

p.s. May Allah forbid any such test to take hold of me. If such test is written for me, may Allah bless me with wisdom and strength of dealing with it in the best way possiible

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Agreed. This has been covered about 10 trillion times.

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Maham

exactly, you dont understand

1)Dushwari has already asked the same question before. The chosen words may be a little different but the question was the same. I am merely questioning if we had not covered it before or if this was infact an unrelated question.
2) I was in no way shape or form being harsh towards her or towards the topic, but just noting that she has already asked this question before

You are reading the situation completely wrong.

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^ ok, my bad! but the fact that i have read some other people giving negative comments on her posting such topic perhaps made me feel you were one of them too. newayz good u made this clear.

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