who are the people that influence ur way of thinking the most? or the way u behave and look at things?
are they ur parents, friends, teachers or colleagues?
I was discussing with my mum and friends (on separate occassions) of whats happening with the younger desi generation.. like what some kids are upto these days.. and mum said "is it really the parents fault? why are so many kids leaving their culture.. "
one of my really good pals (someone who i adore as a younger sister) was telling me the pressure she feels when shes out with her “other” friends.. of not wanting to go clubbing and dating.. and being treated like crap if she says “no” and how comfortable she is hanging out with me and two of our other pals…
but, who makes us think the way we do? who keeps us “in line”? are our friends the biggest influences in our lives.. or the way our parents have brought us up? wat do u think?
my parents used to, my mum did, not so much my dad. he has taught me alot about perfecting the art of arguing though.
Friends not so much either, no one friend i have is similar to myself, and i don't really take anybodys advice but my own. I listen, but know that i have the ability to work it out for myself, which is what i usually do anyway. i'd hate to do some of the things my friends do, they have their own set of morals and values and i have mine. I would never conform to anybodys way of thinking...i don't think.
When it comes down to it, i think an equal balance between listening to others whether they are family or friends has its place, but actually doing what others do,to be influenced by them, it isnt something i think about, nor have i ever been influenced by anybody apart from my mother. Even then i never listened to her.
your own charecter and personality depend on these decisions, and parents, environment and family values all matter equally, like I have a few freinds that even consume alcohol - but I never took a sip, its all upto you - and if they make you the blacksheep due to these paltry reasons they are NOT your freinds but just a bunch of low lives living in some soap opera or novel wonderland.
My mom was my best friend, now after my marriage I made my hubby my best friend, because I know he knows better than me so I followed him most of the time, all decisions made by our discussion and he also discuss with me all the problems too.