Perhaps the title is a little misleading. But my fiance and I have been together for a year and two months now. And we had an arranged marriage (though, no wedding yet, soon InshAllah). Initially we were both VERY shy. We didn’t even talk, even when we saw each other, he wanted to talk, and he tries initiating it, however I had a difficult time keeping a conversation. We’d known each other since we were kids, so we were so awkward. He however had liked me all along, I didn’t care much about him. Until now of course, haha. Now we are best friends and (I’d like to think) soulmates, and it’s wonderful this way. We talk, text, go out with family, we’ve decided not to go out alone unless if we are to be married soon. I would definitely say I love him and there’s no turning back. We talk about this often, because from what we have heard from other couples, they get less sappy and lovey dovey after a while. When does that routine, boring, blah life start?
My question to all the un-married and married couples out there is, how long does “infatuation” last for y’all? When would you say you’re in “love”? And how long is your lovey dovey phase? Of course ideally everyone wants it to be forever, but from what I’ve heard it unfortunately isn’t the case..
infatuation stage lasts until the time the couple has the first baby after that love starts (with the kids of course)
common girl.. u r not married yet and u have started thinking about things like ‘how long does love last’ blah blah
Be positive about ur future life.. Its totally upto you n ur husband and I believe love will always grow when u r in a marriage relationship (of course if you were married with your agreement/ choice etc. and were not forced into marriage in the first place)
I cant put a finger on how long the lovey dovey stage lasted for us. It didn't end abruptly. What happens with us is, things get boring, one of us complains, we fight a little, and then things go back to being a little exciting, until that fades away again.
We haven't landed into perpetual boredom. I really hope that is not the normal state for relationships.
The high that you get from seeing the person, and the butterflies in your tummy and when you can't feel anything but happiness - all of that probably lasted a couple of months. Again, can't put a finger on it. When it happened, I am pretty sure I was glad that crazy phase was over.
LOL Ashy2010, no, I never asked how long does "love" last! I hope it lasts forever :P I asked how long does the lovey dovey stage last. However, from what I have learned it's all about putting time and effort into the relationship. Relationships require a certain amount of work from both people, you can't put a relationship on the backburner while you go on with life, that's when it starts to become boring, etc; etc; And after a while both parties start to understand each other's ryhythms and I suppose the lovey doveyness turns into a mutual healthy understanding. That is ideal of course.
And lovey dovey as in puppy love -- the butterflies, etc; that curious lady mentions. Because that part of the relationships TENDS to die down after a while
^ lol… thnx for the explanation.. I have never been through such strong feelings of love yet so I have no idea… but I guess that lovey dovey feeling would continue few months into the marriage
after that love starts (with the kids of course) 
