inequality and its flaw

Society Religion & Philosophy
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a philosophical argument on human relationship:
it causes the following:-

resentment
detachment
insensitivity
carelessness
& plenty of other negative attributes to a point that the relationship is extinguished.

then, how is an unqual relation any good?

best,
Dushwari

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Re: inequality and its flaw

:confused:

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Re: inequality and its flaw

sara_87,

i hope you understand the query, if you dont, then please ask and i will try to explain.
best,
Dushwari aapi

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Re: inequality and its flaw

Dushwari,
A subjective analysis may not yield an argument strong enough to deny the wickedness of the relationship that causes nothing but bitterness; however an objective analysis may come up with a justification as to why human beings may linger on with this kind of relationship. Let’s look at the query objectively, but let’s go back a step and try to understand what relationship is, why human beings are humbled by the need to engage in a propinquity that may bring noting but distress and dejection.

The binding force behind human relationship may be a biological imperative, a cultural necessity, a family bondage, job formalities and regulations. Each of us lives in a society that is governed by a very complex fabric of human interaction, most of the time we are engaged in more than many different and often complex, often contradictory, and often unknown rules of the social system. It is clamant to understand human behavior and ability of an average human being to extract a false positive pertaining to a particular relationship that might have been a spillover from another thread of a complex nest of relationship.
Each type of relationship has a set of associated rules, both subjective and objective, where as objective rules are mostly defined, observed and documented, subjective rules are, principally, unconscious, undocumented, non palpable by the contending human beings and has a lot to do with the perception of an individual.

It is generally believed that an average human being would accept the consequences of negotiated rules of an engagement. The word “average” does not accommodate all those who pretend to accept the rules. Even among those who accept the consequences, the perception of the conceived causatum plays a vital role in the formulation of reaction.
It is clear that a negative attribute is, predominantly, an offspring of the objective rules of relationship, and to that we must also appreciate the fact that two human beings may or may not have same objective rules, expectations, of an intrinsic relationship.
Nature of each relationship also dictates the strength of subjective observation of the objective rules, without realizing and appreciating the fact that subjective analysis may have a cleft of miles between the two.

Unfortunately, there are no right cultures, no universally acceptable norms, no true philosophies of human social life. The more we get socially entangled, the more we are inspired, both positively and negatively, by, and vulnerable to external factors. A negative sentiment that we may present to one of our biological near kin may just be cascaded from an external factor, yet the perception, though a false positive that it may induce into the relation can be devastating. Understanding the perspective of the one who is a reason for the negative emotional sentiments is necessary to either settle or disengage the relationship.

phir AAmad huee mujy
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In realtionships, both parties complete each other, they dont compete with each other.

WHen they bring uneuqal emotions, they just fill the gaps for each other ...

as long as the emotions are not negative ones ... it does not matter if they are equal or not ...

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Way to go, TLK!

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Re: inequality and its flaw

Peace

The flaw of relationships is often blamed on the inequality of them. This may perhaps be a misnoma. The issue is really that before being bound by a relationship which in every respect is a contract, the parties should be clear of the roles that are expected to be undertaken.

In addition to this during the relationship, flexibility and consideration needs to prevail between the two parties to accomodate scenarios which are unexpected or to bend towards a different norm as and when people change through their experiences.

Very vaguely putting it ... if a submissive person enters a relationship knowing that the other person will dominate may be more at home than a person who is not submissive.

The issue is very complex and a lot of thought needs to go into the relationship the worst thing is to let it be carried by pure emotion, because emotions can be love but they can also be anger or resentment. Usually people will act odd when in stress and these signs should be recognised. Also it should be encouraged that committment becomes a life principle of both parties and that to curb distraction people need to channel their energies especially sexual on to one another.

All the advice given to chaste people before marriage should be retained for after marriage ...

~**~ Tussi Baray ----- Ho ~~~~ ~**~
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Well all relationships do not bring "resentment, detachment, insensivity, carelessness, etc....", only SOME.here's why:

Actually there are two ways to live a relationship:
- competition,or
- cooperation

In a competition relationship between A & B, A & B are allways trying to get somthing from the other, and try use to the relationship to their own benefice. That is why resentment can be felt to the other when one is more succesfull in using the other than vice versa,and the one can feel growing carelessness and detachment to the 'used' looser of the relationship. ACtually the relationship end when the gap between the winner and the looser of the competitve relationship is too wide: game over!
In a cooperation relationship between A & B, A and B both work together to make the AB relationship strong and sustainable. They don't expect to win over each other, but to rip fruits from the relationship. So cooperation relationships brings hapiness, support, care, gratitude, and lots of love*.
HOwever there are some condition to enter into cooperation relationships: trust and openmind (isn't it "love"?). If any one party of the relationship fails to trust or to communicate effectively with an openmind...The relatioonship will tilt toward competition and will bring negative feelings.

*it's a positive feedback, the more love, the more trust and open-mindness, then the more cooperative relationship, then more love, etc...

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all sounds good to me.
thanks everybody.

Dushwari